Why would a man choose a Christian woman to marry rather than a less Christian woman ?

Question

I am a very Christian woman who depends on God daily just for mere existence. I had competitors for my husband, still do, who are more attractive and more fun. Is there something about being a very spiritual woman that is more of a turnon for men rather than just your average woman ?

Answer 1

Married couples need to have the same beliefs and the same passion for their faith.

Men who are strong Christians probably prefer women who are strong Christians, who will be just as excited as they are to attend church and teach their children all of the neat Bible stories and talk about all the miracles that God is performing in their lives.

Men who are not serious about Jesus Christ probably prefer women who are not really into their faith either, because they don't want a wife who's going to drag them to church and constantly bring up the subject of God in conversations.

As for attractiveness and being fun... these are bonuses that a man or woman seeks in a marriage partner, but they are not nearly as important as shared beliefs. Besides, as long as your spouse is at least a *little* bit attractive and kinda fun to be with at least at times, these two traits aren't huge deciders in the love/soulmate/spiritual equation that factors into your decision to marry someone.

Answer 2

Well, in some ways yes and in some ways no. First, the average woman "puts" out more as a general rule, at least early on.

But, what are the "turn on's" of a devout Christian Wife? First, the Christian male is commanded to seek such out to make a blessed union. Second, the Christian Wife is more submissive to her Husband and must yield to his authority. Third, the Christian Wife will not easily cheat on him. Fourth, the Christian Wife will do much more work around the house and be a pleasing help mate. Finally, (for I am tired) the Christian Wife cannot say no unless both decide to set an apart time for God.

Now, I realize that some of this is more hyperbole and half the story they are in fact supported by scripture. I myself married a Christian woman and she does not have to worry about "contenders" nor do I for that matter. Unity is above all the most attractive thing about a partner. If you do not have this you will not have time to get to the rest of it.

Answer 3

Depends on the man and his own preference. It could be very possible that your husband married you because he simply loves YOU. I'm sure if this is the case, there are many factors that play here, not just you being a Christian. There are men out there who are actually in love with and faithful to their wives ;)

Answer 4

If your husband is Christian then it would be important for him to marry a Christian woman because it says to be equally yoked in the bible. If he isn't Christian, then I have no idea, maybe he wants your goodness to rub off on him. At some point in a man's life, looks don't matter as much as finding a great companion to share life's adventures with.

Answer 5

hmmm. This sounds real proud sister pride is something I have had to fight because it is hard to recognize especially when someone calls you on it. Please don't take this as an insult but more of a warning cuz pride messed me up real bad at a time when i was really close to God. So just be careful.

all the love
Marilyn

oh ya and I think a christian woman is a blessing for any man.

Answer 6

There is no one answer, as there are many different men with different beliefs.

Some people may find strong religious beliefs stifling. Others may find it desirable. People commonly enjoy the company of others who agree on major topics. Secondly, strong religious belief and fun are not mutually exclusive.

I can't say why he married you vs. someone else. You have to ask him.

I guess what it comes down to is - how much in common do you and your husband have? I think this is where you may find the reasons.

Answer 7

Why don't you bring up your children as both. Yes, I know...crazy. But, honestly, it isn't that hard. If you're taking them to church (temple), take them to yours. If he wants them to go to his church, he can take them. Then, when they are old enough to really understand what is going on, you can let them decide on their own. Celebrate both Christmas and Hanukkah, celebrate all of the Jewish holidays as well as Easter. You accomplish a few things here. One, you're both happy. But most importantly, your children are more open minded. They have experienced the meaning behind all the Christian and Jewish holidays. They know the stories and the meanings and they can make an educated decision regarding what they believe in. Then, you're going to have to be willing to support their decision. Talk to your bf. If he wants your children to be Christian as well, he's going to have to make some effort in the religion department. He's going to have to take them to church and talk to them about the bible stories. If he isn't willing to do that, then Jewish it is. Make sure he knows that you're not changing your own religion to raise your children the way he wants. He's going to have to make an effort. Good luck. This will be hard, but it is doable.

Answer 8

For me the first requirement in a woman is she must be a Christian. I want a woman who loves Jesus more than she loves me.

Answer 9

It comes down to knowing all you can about the person you will spend the rest of your life with. The fact that someone knows what it means to be forgiven for wrongs they have done in their past makes them more likely to be a forgiving and loving person to someone else. Isn't that what we are all looking for in a lifetime mate, someone who will love and forgive us even if we don't deserve it?

Answer 10

Forbidden fruit.

Also note that being a "very spiritual" person is not exclusive to Christianity.