Serious Answers ONLY please.......any advice...
I have found little good from having this person in my life. I really did love them, and in the end it is not looking like it is going to work out. I gave them soooo much of me when they needed it, but now when I need them they are not doing the same.
I some times wish that I never met them.
I have had such pain because things are not going my way at all.
I thought God put people in our lives for a purpose.
Why does it seem like he has been putting people in my life so that I help them or make them feel better and in the end all I am left with is pain.
I think I am a good person.
I pray and trust in the Lord....but this time it really hurts.
I was so good to this person and now everything is falling apart.
I am really trying.....why God?
2007-11-27 07:15:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Learn what?
I have had experiences with people and there was no lesson at the end of the day.
2007-11-27 07:19:13 · update #1
I did help them. The problem is I got nothing out of it. Sounds selfish....but that's how it goes
2007-11-27 07:22:13 · update #2
I am NOT blaming God.
I am just trying to figure out the point of this person even being in my life when all it has brought me in the end is pain.
It is hard when God cannot come down and just talk to you, so I am just trying to understand.
And hopefully one day...not too far away, I will.
I just don't want to be bitter forever.
I want to still feel that even when bad things happen, we are still good people and that God is going to bring joy to us one day even tho it hurts so much now.
2007-11-27 07:39:46 · update #3
Did God put this person in your life or did you? You made the decision to start a relationship , not God. We have to know God will give us spiritual guidance, then do our part and make a good choice.
2007-11-27 07:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
God puts certain people in our lives for a reason that we may not know for awhile. I know it sucks but the lesson could be for you not to be discouraged that you gave so much of yourself to this person. Another lesson could be that you can't have your way all the time, control is not yours in a lot of cases (I know that sucks), it could be a lesson you keep repeating of you need to know when to let go of toxic people. Are you doing things to get this person to love you the way you love them? It could be the lesson of even though these people keep taking from you & using you for whatever reason they have, maybe the lesson is to not stop trying with the next one, not be discouraged to love or do things for someone new. God could be bringing these people to you to help them with a struggle in themselves that you aren't aware of. I know it hurts, I've been there and am there right now with someone too. Don't lose your trust in God, I know its cliche, but He doesn't give us things we can't handle - I know it doesn't help to hear that either. All this you're going thru has an end to it, it will make you stronger, it will make you wiser, it will help you see how not to repeat the same things with the same kind of person over and over again. You may not see what you need to learn yet but you eventually will when you start to make changes to how you deal with those that take and give back. Maybe the lesson is about generosity who knows but try to take comfort that this pain will pass & you're not the 1st or the only one who's gone thru it; I know it feels like it but you're not alone in it.
2007-11-27 07:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does put people in our lives for a reason. Sometimes, that reason is to hurt, as awful as it sounds. You may need to learn something from this experience. I've been there. It's been over 5 years since I seperated from my ex. He and I were together for almost 2 yrs, each day was horrible. Not only did I allow him to verbally abuse me, but he physically abused me, as well as being unfaithful to me. I loved him very much. But one day, I grew tired of it and left. It hurt. I was so used to him that I was scared to start dating. I did eventually date again, and I did learn to love again. I've been happily married for 3 years now, and if I described how my husband treats me, you would think I was telling a fairy tale. I personally believe that sometimes you have to go through a struggle to really appreciate what God has given you. I hope my experiance has helped.
2007-11-27 07:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Scooterette1! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you ended up getting hurt in the end, maybe you made a difference in his/her life. Maybe you helped him/her without knowing it...even if the effects of what you have done may not become apparent to that person very quickly. People come into our lives for different reasons, even if we do end up disliking the person, or getting hurt, etc.
By the way, try not to use God as an excuse for everything. You have to make your own life sometimes you know.
2007-11-27 07:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a learning lesson. Maybe it is teaching you to set your bar a little higher and gain more self respect. God is giving you the right direction, just keep listening and watching before you make a decision to pour your heart into someone. Don't give up yet, it'll happen for you.
2007-11-27 07:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it like this god gives you pain so that you will have more motivation and ambition in life. the more pain the more someone wants to get away from it. also god is testing you. just like the rest of the world. you seem like a great person and that's saying a lot coming from someone like me.
2007-11-27 07:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't control every aspect of our lives. That's what free will is for. If that person made choices that put him in your life for a while and you made choices to have him in your life for a while, God is not going to stop those consequences.
2007-11-27 07:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Acorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly. you have been given a trial and a life lesson. The only reason he allowed it because it is nessisary. Trial can make us strong or weak. he's waiting on what you will do. Will you blame it on god, or shake it off. (Which i know will be hard)
2007-11-27 07:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Felicity*~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get them out of your life and learn from this experience.
2007-11-27 07:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by including your mother's "relationship"? does she not approve? your engaged to this man and believe God put him into your life, with obstacles? perhaps God is trying to teach or show you something about love and loyalty? I dunno without more story, sorry, I didn't see your prior post...God Bless
2016-04-06 00:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋