My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up with for 4 months. She broke up with me. In the last 2-3 months she calls me like every 2-3 weeks and tells me that she misses me and things about our relationship. She has been seeing someone else and she has told me more than once that she doesnt like him that much and that they dont have the same connection that we have. About a month ago I stopped taking her calls and havent answered her texts. She saw me a week ago with another girl and she called me at work 2 days later and told me several things about how she misses me and how special I am and then she started crying and told me she wanted to see me, and that she is thinking of leaving the guy she is with, etc. She never acts on her statements so I told her that I am moving on and that I think it would be best for her not to call me EVER again. When I said that she hung up on me(immature). I think I did the right thing, but I DO love her very much. What is she doing this for?What to do?
2007-11-27 06:53:42 · 11 answers · asked by zarro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In answer to your question - she's doing this because she knows she can use and manipulate you.
Move on honey - she's wack-o
I'd stick with your plan - she's history. She's past - the past is dead - let it stay dead.
Oh sure she'll cry and all that - but one fine day you'll meet some nice girl who appreciates the nice man you are - and be much happier with her than you could ever ever be with that kook of an Ex you have.
Make it clear that you don't want to hear from her again and don't answer her contacts.
2007-11-27 07:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really don't know what u've got till it's gone. When ur in a relationship ur comfortable with that person as well as their flaws. But as u meet new ppl, u find diff flaws. It's not so comfortable anymore. Sounds like she broke up with u to shop around. Also sounds like she wants the best of both worlds in keeping u around but at the same time seeing if anyone else compares to u. She probably really does still love u or else why not cut contact off completely? She's most likely jealous seeing u with another girl.....wondering wow if he's good enough for another girl did I let a great thing go? Don't let her waste ur time. If she can't drop the dating scene 4 u, then u deserve better.
2007-11-27 07:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no love like the love you had and gave up. Regrets We all have them and some of us can't move on until we are forced too. Sounds like a lot of emotions going on here. If she really wants you she would give up the other guy so its more likely she is more about power than love. As a guy you can let your reason over ride your emotions about this girl and really need to. To do it without bitterness to future girlfriends is the trick. When you have her worked out in your mind then move on and don't let her memory taint your future loves. Good Luck.
2007-11-27 07:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kdid49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is doing this to keep you as an option. She is not sure the guy she is sleeping with now is right for her, and that maybe you are better, She wants you to stand by the phone, waiting for her call, so that if she decides she likes you better than him, you will be there for her. If you ARE there for her, she will never respect you or treat you as if you are the one for her. You are doing the right thing. When she calls or texts again (and she will), answer with, "I asked you not to call or text me. If you continue, I will file a harassment charge and seek a Restraining order against you."
You are MUCH MUCH better off without her.
2007-11-27 07:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by dejapooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really her lose, what if you had suffered a breakdown. I think she can't eat her cake and have it at the same time. If you say you DO love her very much than remember what she is capable of doing to you when she doesn't have things her own way. There is an AFRICAN PROVERB that reads "If you are afraid of divorce then you won't get a better mariage".
Believe that anything that happens is good. l wish you the best cos i know it is not easy for you.
2007-11-27 07:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by awo d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww. I'm sorry to hear about your woes.
Maybe your should have been honest with her about your feelings including that these repeated phone calls and comments make you confused and sad. She should understand jerking you around is unacceptable.
You guys should start over as a couple or, make a clean break. The middle of the road stuff never works.
2007-11-27 06:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Itsa Secret 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know what to expect if you get back together with her - more of the same, the good and the bad. So, if you can deal with her temper and her breaking up with you all the time - and if it's worth it, then go for it.
2016-05-26 03:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by delores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is she doing this for? Maybe because (since she was the one who broke up) she really does miss you. Maybe she feels like she made a mistake. But you've moved on, so I guess there's really nothing else to do. My guess is that she's accepted you back. Now it is up to you.
2007-11-27 06:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing right, past is past. Over time it'll get better. You guys broke up for a reason, don't look back.
2007-11-27 06:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. There are plenty of other women. Tell her to leave you alone. Don't answer her calls.
2007-11-27 07:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋