I love this man I been with him for about 3 years and 6 months and we want to get married I am so exited to marry him.
This is the thing we are going back and forward with where how the wedding will be and I hate it cause he depands a lot on what his mom has to say or dad ... I was seeing this show Tell me you love me " where this couple just walked in and got married in a chapel and it seemed so romantic cause its just them 2 ... I always tell my fiance to marry me that same day and he just laughs and says no honey we are gonna wait till my parents can be their. Am I crazy?? I rather have a nice honey moon
2007-11-27 06:23:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I just wish he was more impulsive he like to plan everything
2007-11-27 06:27:45 · update #1
Yeah, Impulsive would be good but you need to accept that your boyfriend does not want this. So if you want to marry him it is either the whole shebang wedding.....or call the whole thing off. It is your call.
Funny, usually it is the other way around, the guys wanting to elope and the girl wanting the big wedding.
2007-11-27 06:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have just your families there, walk into a chapel and get married. It need not be a big production, nor does it need to be expensive. It's not unreasonable to want to share this day with the families. Book a chapel, have both sets of parents (and maybe the siblings) attend, and go out to a modest dinner afterwards. Voila.
P.S. And believe me - you DON'T want to be married to an "impulsive" person. He's doing it the right way. Planning is what's going to help you achieve your goals together.
2007-11-27 15:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point, but now that I am a parent...I dream of the day I get to see my children marry the person of their dreams. This is a huge event for the whole family...although you and your fiance are the guests of honor!!
If you don't want the planning...and want it spontaneous, then keep it simple, small, and intimate...with just immediate family only and announce the date for about a week or two ahead of time...depending how much time you need to plan what you're wearing and a location!
2007-11-27 14:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys have two very different personalities.
The wedding is not just your special day, but it is HIS too.
If you really love him, you will have to get used to the fact that he is very close to his family, and that their feelings and involvement are very important to him. If you can't live with that, you are asking for a life time of bickering and strife.
Sometimes it is good to look beyond the wedding, and think about how to make your marriage and family work.
2007-11-27 16:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, but just keep in mind that what is most important is that you both have your sanity at the end of the day. You have the rest of your lives for just you two. Look at your wedding as a way to celebrate with all the wonderful people who have made your life so special.
2007-11-27 14:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by livewithoutfear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise, you want him to be more impulsive and he wants his family to be involved. Really though I say why not go all out? I mean, ideally, you will only be married once and the wedding day is a big deal...not only for the two of you, but for your families too.
2007-11-27 14:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own idea of how they want their wedding to be, even men. If he wants his parents to be there, you need to respect that, it's not an out-of-the-ordinary request. But he shouldn't let that interfere with the two of you being able to make any plans at all. He needs to call them, tell them you guys are ready to set a date and pick one, then you can both start planning from there.
2007-11-27 14:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A agree with your boyfriend. A wedding is a great celebration and should be for family and friends to join in with you.
Eloping is pretty boring, actually, and you'll miss not having your family there!
2007-11-27 14:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Compromise.
And I agree with your fiance that you need to PLAN things.
And I also believe that if he wants his parents to be there, then he should have his parents there.
What exactly do you mean by "what his mom has to say or dad"? What are they saying?
2007-11-27 14:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, but it is important for some people to have thier family there...so fine invite the family...but you guys plan it your way, whether they like it or not...this is your big day....for both of you...
2007-11-27 14:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋