She knows you found out and that you are bothered by it.
2007-11-27 05:59:37 · 11 answers · asked by CaramelKitten 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The b*tch shoulda asked first!
2007-11-28 01:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by LeoLady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I read most of the answers and I don't understand why everone thinks you should drop your friend like a rock, or be mad with her. Sure it's kind of wierd her dating your ex, but if they work together, don't you want your friend to be happy? You and the guy are done so you move on and find some one else that's better suited for you. I know a set of twins, (identical), they went to two different collages and both brought their boyfriends home one weekend so they could meet each other. Shortly after the oldest one (by 3 minutes)
broke up with her guy. About a month later the other one broke up too. Some how they ended up meeting their twins ex's and started dating, they are both now married to these guys and totally happy. If they had gotten mad and had a big fight neither would be happy now. Oh yeah one neet thing they are both expecting and due on the same day.
2007-11-27 14:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by WACVET75 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this isn't a friend at all. I absolutly would not remain friends with her. It's one thing if she told you she was interested in your ex and out of courtsey asked your permission but entirely other thing to go behind you back. I could never date a friends ex. That's horrible and I believe taboo. However if she discussed it with you and you said go ahead it doesn't bother me...I dont' find it weird... It didn't work for us but maybe the two of you are a match ...that's totally different. I guess depending on the relationship you had with him would determine if it's okay to date him. Regardless she should have put your feeling first. Some friends aren't worth keeping.
2007-11-27 14:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose it depends on the situation, if she is a very close friend and you dated the guy for more than a month or so then yes it would be hard totrust her because any relationship that last more than a few weeks is going to leave some sort of impact in your life and you friend should sympathize for you and be a good friend, but on the other hand, if you were a good friend to her you would understand that she likes this guy and would give her your blessing, the fact that she is hiding it from you is really messed up.. i wouldnt necessrily drop her as a friend but you should talk to her and let her know how you feel and maybe she will stop seeing him or you can just save the drama and hurt and tell her its okay but she needs to be more honest with you from now on... but def, watch yourself around her now, make her build the trust back up, its something you have to earn you cant just be given... good luck and i hope all works out for you and your friend....
2007-11-27 14:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by kaligirl...xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. And it's not even about dating the ex, it's about the deliberate sneaking around instead of being a grown adult and consulting you about it. Not like she needs to ask permission, but if she's your friend she should have talked out with you so you wouldn't be in the position you're in now. Makes me wonder if she's the reason he's now your ex?
2007-11-27 14:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sophra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, honestly, I wound not be able to forgive her in my heart. But think this way, what benefit do you get by hating her. I mean, move on, make good things happen in your life. That is the best hit you can give her. Smile in front of them. Let them see you are a happy person that it is his loss to lose.
On the other hand, if you look angry everytime when you see him. what would he think about you. "oh, I was right to leave her, because she is such an unhappy person." Right.
so, wish you luck.
2007-11-27 14:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Real friends wouldnt do anything behind your back... and she did this out of complete selfishness with no regard to you or how you would have felt.
She didnt even ask for your blessing and didnt care to. Now she is caught and probably feels guilty for it.
She is not your friend.
2007-11-27 14:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Julie S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the code of girl, you are supposed to become mortal enemies now. However you may want to be better then that. The best way to get over a boy, is to get a new boy. Do not give your happiness to others.
2007-11-27 14:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by hilarys_skillery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship was worth it, then yes. If she knows and doesn't care, no.
It may have been done for your protection. She didn't want you to get hurt....
I don't know, talk with her. See how she reacts to your distress.
2007-11-27 14:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nextbestthing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a forgiving person, so I would probably forgive her, but she crossed the line and I would not trust her again.
2007-11-27 14:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋