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Madly in love with each other for one and a half year. she is from an oppressive family. Made her feel like a princess, bought her expensive gifts. In her words" I have never met anybody like you and never will". we had fights earlier too, I am the one to apologise and talk first NO MATTER WHOSE fault. ALWAYS.
Her brother foul mouthed me and threatened me that i Should not to see her again. I in turn said something harsh. She started fighting with me saying that I should not have been rude with her brother and hung up the phone. since then neither she nor me had called. I think she has got into the habit of me apologising first. I know that she loves me a lot (or has it waned off ? )
BUT for the first time I want to put my foot down and do not want to apologise or call first I think I have pampered her enough. I definitely do not want to lose her. WILL SHE CALL OR NOT? . any comments.
2007-11-27 05:32:18 · 12 answers · asked by anewbrainstorm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think once she realizes that you are a damn awesome boyfriend she will call and apologize or at least call to talk. I would def not call her it's kinda a test to see her true feelings. But if she def doesnt call, I would call her if it's been a long time, just to see what the F*** is going on. She needs to understand your feelings as well as you understand her. Good Luck!
2007-11-27 05:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by DirtyPersian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation doesn't sound good on the surface. My first thought was: She hung up on you; she severed the communications - she should be the first to reinitiate them.
But I can't answer if she will or won't call & can't begin to speculate if she values your relationship. She may have gotten used to you calling. But that isn't good for the relationship, either. At some point - either today, next week or next month, you will have an issue that you WILL find it necessary to take a stand.
That her brother threatened you means he has some insight into your relationship. It is probably due to your g/f turning to her brother for support when you do argue. He may have a one sided view of events which led to how he treated you.
You have a tough choice to make. You can continue to be the one to apologize and hope things will change. Or you could put your foot down and find that she may decide that she's not willing to back down. While you say you don't want to lose her - you may have already and just don't know it yet.
2007-11-27 13:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by David M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose the spoiled pampered brat. Obviously she is throwing a fit like a 5 yr old. When she realizes that your not gonna call, she will call you and ask why you didnt call. Just tell her that you thought she loved you enough to defend you from her brother. But if she cant do that, what are yall together for. She cares for herself.
2007-11-27 13:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by solelone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're ever going to get any respect from her, you're going to have to stand your ground. Don't call her or apologize; let her cool off on her own and when she misses you, she'll eventually call and if she never does, oh well, she was never really into you then, was she?! She'll call if she loves you and misses you and she won't if you're not worth much to her. I think you should spend your time keeping busy, doing things with your friends, family and don't focus on her. When you act like a doormat like you have in the past with her, she's going to step on you and wipe her foot on you.
2007-11-27 13:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Šωèé†íé♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not...like you said, you let her get used to you apologizing first no matter whose fault it was...
You should apologize this time...even though her brother started it. Be the bigger man. And then have a talk with her. Tell her you shouldn't always be the one apologizing...and if she still thinks you should be the one apologizing, end it and get over her...that's ridiculous.
2007-11-27 13:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her but don't apologise. talk through the problem with her and explain how you felt when her brother threatened for you to not see her again and explain also that maybe you shouldn't always have to be the one to apologise first. she should understand.
2007-11-27 13:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie. Love music, hate racism. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this she sounds like a spoiled rich gets everything she wats and she wants u to appologize when it's her fault dont give in and appologize she will come around she's just doing that cuz she thinks that she will get what she wants well news flash for her ur putting ur foot down and tell her that and if she don't like to bad and yeah she will probably call u soon and talk to u and she probably will appologize after a little while of thinking about it
2007-11-27 13:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by mary m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call, tell her how you feel and indicate that her never making the first move bothers you and that you want things to change.
2007-11-27 13:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Peacenik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah **** that man... its better off her leaving you than you being a push over your whole life.. theres a difference between being a nice and good boyfriend and being just flat out ran over and taken advantage of... stand up for yourself you will get good results and your relationship will change for the better... if it breaks off then it does and it will hurt but ur better off in the long run but man you gotta stand up for yourself
2007-11-27 13:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should not apologize it was her brother that was at fault and she should apologize for his actions. Any girl tha thinks that she is a princess is a b*tch in my book!!!!
2007-11-27 13:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Maranda C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋