why did my father kill himself?

Question

He killed himself and i don't know why.

Answer 1

Sadly you will never understand the answer. I have a uncle whom i was very close to that also killed himself almost 20 years ago and I still wonder why all the time.

Answer 2

Well, I don't know your father, so I can't tell you the exact reason. But I can tell you that people usually commit suicide because they are suffering either emotional or physical pain that they can't cope with. Some people only attempt suicide, which is a call for help. Some people are quite serious about ending this pain and actually go through with it.
It sounds like your father didn't have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, which is sad. Knowing Christ can give us the understanding of why bad things happen to us, and the knowledge that it isn't permanent, there is something better in store for us soon, and He gives us the strength to withstand any pain we're going through. He will not give us any more than we can handle.
On the other hand, some people have this idea that "I don't deserve this [pain]", or "I deserve better in life", which is actually a form of pride. Sinful humans, in God's eyes, don't deserve anything but death. "For the wages of sin is death." However, that's why He sent His only Son to die the death penalty for us, so that we have a clean slate and an open door to Heaven.
I pray that you do not allow your father to have died in vain - don't go down the same path he took. Look to Christ for your salvation and to be your guide in life. Only He can help you. God bless you.

Answer 3

You may never know why. Google Survivors of Suicide, it's a nationwide group that has local groups in your area. I've had 6 people I know, some relatives, some not, who've suicided, and this group's a great service to those who survive the loss of someone due to suicide.

From what I have experienced and heard, mostly the suiciders are in so much 'pain' (either emotional or physical or spiritual or any combinaton thereof) that they do this to try to alleviate the pain. It's not because of something someone in their life did or didn't do, it's their overload system way of 'coping'.

Your father may not even have known why he did what he did. There is no telling what goes on in other people's minds.

Try checking out the group in your area, they have alot of good free printed material and support for you.

Peace to your heart and mind.

Answer 4

The only way to heal through emotional problems is to tell yourself and convince yourself the truth. The truth is, its not your fault. There are millions of people in this world that have threatened to kill themselves, or have attempted but changed their mind before its too late. Instinct forces you to live, nobody wants to truly die, they just react on their emotions. Something would have had to been really wrong in his mind to make him actually go through with it, and chances are great that right before he hung himself, the 1/4 of a second before it happened, he already regretted doing it. What I don't understand is, if he kicked you out, then you didn't abandon him, he abandoned you. I don't know the full story but it sounds that there was either more, or something totally different, to make him do what he did. People make their own choices, and he chose to do this. You didn't tell him to do it, you didn't make him want to do it no matter what you did, he made himself do it. It's the same as when someone calls you a dirty word, its up to you to get mad and retaliate, or realize you are much better than them by keeping your mouth closed and realizing you are the bigger person. You just need to convince yourself its not your fault, he CHOSE to do it, you didn't hang him, he hung himself

Answer 5

Suicide happens when the pain of living is greater than the fear of dying. Paradoxically people that actually do commit suicide do so as a means of wrestling control back from a life that seems to have gotten completely out of control.
I'm sorry about your dad and quite honestly you may never actually know or understand why he did it .Thinking that you might someday understand the reason(s) is an intellectual trap that you can all to easily fall into .Try to avoid it if you can because while it's easy to fall into,it's really hard to get out of.

Answer 6

I'm sorry that you have to go through something like this. Loss is just a part of life. Maybe he killed himself because he was sad. Or because he hated his life.

You will hopefully if God wills get over it one day; until then trust in God.

Answer 7

Salaam Alaykum,
Casey there could be a number of reasons why. People that suffer from depression and go untreated usually end up dead from suicide. It is a disease. Now with that in mind he is sadly one of many that suffer and as the families of the victims of we blame ourselves..like what if I noticed maybe I could have stopped him. No Casey. He died because like many victims of severe depression they are afraid to seek help and be labeled crazy. He died of a disease that went untreated just like cancer. Deadly but still a disease not a flaw in his character. Please understand this fact and the many lives that are lost to it. Check the Mental Health Advocates and help remove the stigma of mental illness for all of us. Casey you can help others and remove the stigma of this killer. It is really high in teens so understanding and helping kids not to do this will give you closure and understanding.
Wa alaykum Salaam

Answer 8

you're father is the only one who can ever possibly give you an answer to that question....perhaps someday you will find the answer.
I am sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace.
If you would like to talk about it a bit more - and I realize I'm putting myself out there - feel free to email me ok?
Sometimes we just need someone to talk to.

Answer 9

Some thing was bothering him. My guess is depression.
Pray and ask God to find him and help him.
My Mother prayed for this. She had a vision of my brother between two angels, and she never felt bad after that.

Answer 10

I really wouldn't come on here for an answer. It's a terrible situation for you and you run the chance of some nasty people making light of it when answering you.

If you don't know now I don't think you ever will. But I think you need to talk to someone about it, to get some closure.