My boyfriend then of 6 years, now husband for 9 years.. Why does he look at me different and treat me different when my weight changes? Im still the same person, He makes me feel less pertty, less wanted. I was pregnant but lost my baby so my weight is still on me, Im working on it though..Why does he make me feel like that? I'm not an ugly person, I'm beautiful,so, I tell myself since he doesnt..Maybe it's just my hormones that are driving me up this roller coster..
2007-11-27 05:28:49 · 10 answers · asked by zadie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know what it would be called in this case but, you both are going through something sence you lost your child, give it some time and let him know how you feel.
2007-11-27 05:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a little of both , but have you considered that the loss of your baby has effected him as much as you ? Men are pretty good at holding things inside , and it could be that which is making him seem like he doesn't find you as attractive anymore. I'm betting he does and that the two of you just need to sit down and have a long talk about how you both feel. If he cant do that see if you can get him to go with you and see a therapist.
I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you and him can work this out because a relationship is the most important thing in your life. You married each other for a reason and sometimes we just have to go back and re-visit those feelings to re-kindle your love.
2007-11-27 14:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by BILL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men want to have the trophy wife so other guys are jealous. After losing a baby ( I am so sorry ) you need to feel loved and beautiful, not feel like your ugly and fat. Take your time getting that weight off and talk to your husband about how he makes you feel. Good luck and God Bless
2007-11-27 13:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is still in morning and insecure about the state of your relationship. Hormones get the blame for everything. I just feel that you two need to talk out your problems. That is the only way to know if you can move beyond them or if you need something entirely different in your lives. Also try counseling to help you resolve any body image feelings you may be experiencing.
2007-11-27 13:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by DIVAPRINCIPAL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's time for counseling. There's more to it than just your weight gain or loss that's really causing the rift between you two - it sounds like the loss of your baby is really hitting him just as hard as it is hitting you.
And he's not dealing with it very well. In fact, neither of you is dealing with this very well.
Again, it's time for counseling - not just grief counseling but communication skills as well.
Good luck sweetie.
2007-11-27 13:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not crazy and that is very possible. after my bf of 10 years fiance' of 2 years and i broke up and we had a discussion he also said that my weight was an issue with him and that hurt me very much to my soul bcuz if and when u love someone u love them unconditionally and i felt i wasn't getting that. people used to and still tell me allthe time that what u did to get him u have to do to keep him.
2007-11-27 13:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by naughtygirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ZADIE DEAR,
DONT WORRY DEAR I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM AND AM TRYING TO LOOSE SOME POUNDS....ITS JUST YOU WERE SO BEAUTIFUL EARLIER AND NOW LIKE THIS.....SO.....THINGS WILL CHANGE.....even i lost baby last july and i put on 15 kgs....so....i know the pain ur going through.....ONE THING I WNT YOU TO REMEMBER YOUR HUSBAND LOVES YOU HOWEVER YOU LOOK....
2007-11-27 13:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that the best thing for you is to convey these feelings to him. And I'm sorry about your baby.
2007-11-27 13:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by ithecho84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not because your not beautiful, or ugly. its because you guys were expecting to have a baby, and then you lost it. that can make him change his views dramaticly. maybe he was really expecting to have that baby, and when you guys lost it, he soon started to lose it too.
2007-11-27 13:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by wrestling diva!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you lost your little one. Tell him how you feel and take good care of yourself. Tell him you need hugs and to feel wanted. Do something nice for yourself and remember that you are worthy of love and respect.
2007-11-27 13:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by Rowan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋