my boyfriend has a problem with it. i can see his point, but i have the opportunity to make a lot of money! i really want to do it because i know i could do a good job, but i dont want to ruin my relationship!!! what should i do!?
2007-11-27 05:04:52 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless your boyfriend is going to pay all your bills (and I'm not suggesting your the kind of girl who would go for that), then he needs to knock it off. Its a job, a job that pays your bills, gets you the things you need, and helps you to be independent. If he has a problem with what you do, then that's his problem. He is obviously lacking in the security department. You need money. You don't need a guy who is going to question you (or try to control you) as to how you make it. He either needs to accept the fact that you can make decisions on your own or he needs to grow up. As far as Hooters is concerned, its a legal job, its honest work, its not like you are doing something crazy. The job is a waitress (essentially), and your lucky enough to look the part, then go for it. Don't listen to any negative crap. Pretty soon, you'll move on to other things, its not like you plan to make a career out of it.
2007-11-27 05:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What means more to you? Your boyfriend or money? Do you see yourself marrying him one day? And thats not the only place where you can make good money. You don't have to belittle yourself for a few extra bucks. You are going to have a bunch of gross older men oogling you and most likely using your image later that night to do whatever with themselves. Why not try a regular more high class restaurant? The waitresses make great money at nice places too. Or be a bartender? Don't ruin your relationship over money...its not worth it. And switch the situation around...how would you feel if he worked at....lets say Thunder from Down Under? Would you want him around a bunch of skeezy girls all night 5 days a week?
2007-11-27 05:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by LO 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to make him understand that a job is a job even if it is a a hooters girl. If you need the money and it may improve your relationship for the future than carry on. If you think that it will ruin it, it may be good to quit.
2007-11-27 05:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, a lot of women think you're wrong. Look, the fact of life is a pretty woman can put on a T-shirt and get a lot of tips. Pretending this isn't the case is just plain silly. Make your money. Those who say that he shouldn't control you are right. To heck with him. It's not like you're selling body parts.
2007-11-27 05:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So which is more important to you at this point in your life, your boyfriend or money? Realize that if you choose the money, you'll probably lose the b.f. And if you do find another b.f. he may not be the best of partners, 'cause guys tend to expect certain - um - "misbehaviors" from women sassy enough to strut around making bucks with their boobs!
2007-11-27 05:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong working at hooters.
Don't quit your job for him make your money.
If he doesn't understand that means he doesn't
trust you. He has no reason to make a big deal
about it hooters is not like a gentlemen's club.
I been to hooters many times with guys and girls.
They serve food and beer and the girls are covered up.
He is just jealous because guys like to go there,
not just guys but girls do too. Keep your job
because you applied for a reason.
2007-11-27 05:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're truely serious about this man. Work together on this. I bet you there's a better job out there that could pay just as good. And there would be no need to dress in whatever way they dress. And your boyfriend would hopfully be more comfortable. You would too. I'm sure of it.
2007-11-27 05:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I use to date a Hooters girl and we didn't have any problems with her job she would go to work and come home as soon as she got out of work just like she did at the Applebee's jobe before Hooters..Just show him he can trust you and there won't be a problem....
2007-11-27 05:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you changed a lot since you started going together? If you were the quiet, modest, bookworm who worked in a library, and then suddenly got a total makeover and went wild, I could see his objections. Even then, the choice is yours. When you love someone, you love them even if they work at Hooters.
2007-11-27 05:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by tawniemarie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I wouldn't take the job. I know my bf would freak out, but that's not the reason I wouldn't take it. It's because I have self-respect, and I wouldn't lose that for money. Whenever people think about a hooter girl, they think of a slutty girl, and I'm not saying it actually applies to you, but do you want people to mistake you for one?
2007-11-27 05:12:27 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋