should i just forget about the relationship we had and just be friends with him?

Question

i broke up with my ex less than a month ago and well he doesnt want to get back with me right now, and well its kind of hard for me since i was the one who broke up with him. i really want him back, but like he still wants us to be friends like we used to be when we first met. do u think that that will be good if i only think of him as a friend and just talk to him whenever i want just like i used to and trying to not bring up the subject of "us" like just simply trying to forget that and treat him like a friend, but i want to go shopping with him this sunday but im sure he's gonna want to kiss me, so like wat should i do???

he's at school right now and yest i told him to call me and he didnt, so i wrote him back saying that i see he doesnt have the balls to think outside the box like to let me no that he cant talk to me and w/e. should i send him a text message with like a stupid joke or something like that, and just play it kool, be like u no wat its true, we better off as friends, so lets not bring the past into the present, wat u guys think? i no i was wrong but i was really mad at him. and well i have noticed that he tries to play it off whenever we have an argument, as if he really dont want me completely out of his life..

Answer 1

Strait up, do you think relationships are a light happy game or something? No offense, just think about it. Do you honestly think relationships are not a fight? Do you in some sort of way believe that relationships if their not light and happy, are flaw'd? Again no offense, the fact is relationships are a struggle and you playing denial games is half the reason your in this mess. Understand that friendship runs DEEPER then what goes on in a commited relationship, you know why? UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! UNCONDITIONAL! What is a commitment? A F'IN CONDITION!!! So unless you have a stronge enough friendship to survive the confindment of a commented relaitonship, your royally screwed like most. So my point to is take the friendship much more serious, its isn't about being "Friendly" to each other, its about fighting to understand him and yourself, so that you can help that "us" you were talking about, becuase hunnie, even as friends, theres an "us". So relax, realize that what you need is to simply be honest, tell him your concerns, your fears, your desires, its even more important AS friends, then it was AS a couple, so get this stuff out in the open and work on your dialgue with each other. Becuase love is never enough, its how to use it, and if you serious, you better learn how to use it on him, were all individuals and we need our own individual consideration, so its time to understand the boy. Tell him the truth..... you miss him, you need him, and you need to spend time figuring yourself, him and the "us" out, don't pretend you know it all, thats just asking for failure.....

That way if he does feel like kissing you, you've already talked about it, might go that when the time comes you BOTH can make the disscion on how right that is, but if your aimming for a light, happy, nothing special relationship that just works, this isn't a movie, you fight for love in the real world....