We started to resume some communication, so I bought her a Christmas gift (a locally made mettalllic craft). Very beautiful, but not expensive ($30). I was all set to send it to her to get there for Christmas, then I found out that she had just started a new relationship with a guy. Should I send it? Should I just send a simple Christmas Card, or just an email? THis is a very awkward position I am in!
2007-11-27 04:21:00 · 17 answers · asked by John S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I notice that everybody is quick to attack her, when in fact this was caused just as much by me. She actually went the extra mile up until that point. I just would like to show her that I still care. I know she still cares some for me.
2007-11-27 04:38:12 · update #1
I am still getting lots of hostile responses...trust me, she was really very good to me, up until the end. Keep in mind, she is a human being too with her own emotional needs. She wanted a husband and a family and I kept blowing her off because commitment scared me. I guess I am the one with problems lol. I still love her and am very grateful for all that she had done for me in our 6 months together.
2007-11-27 04:49:08 · update #2
I say send it, what better time than christmas to let ppl know you still care about them?!
2007-11-27 04:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by *_* Katerrr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for serving the country, sir !!!.
Send her just an e-mail making her know that you already got news about her new relationship, say good-bye to her, let her go. This woman, and the one 25 years ago were not meant for you: cheer up !!.
Why would you like to send her a gift, or a card ? let the other guy do that, you have nothing else to do with her, move on.
Let me tell you finally that you're such a sweet guy, and I'd love to find someday a guy like you, so thoughtful, a real gentleman... I'd like to know the name of the factory where they made you, for me to get a guy like you too.
Keep your faith, God has in store the right woman for you.
Wish you'll find a good woman in a near future, a woman who can appreciate, love a man like you. Again, thank you for your invaluable services to the country.
Take care, and Merry Christmas, sir !!!
2007-11-27 12:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send it to her, send it to your Mom or sister. I agree with some of the others, a card would still be nice if you still care about her.
I can't imagine how hard it would be to be broken up with while being deployed. I am sure that thinking of her helped you get though some tough or lonely times. Just hang in there and have a Merry Christmas!! :)
2007-11-27 12:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by curvygal31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my viewpoint, it's really mean to break up with someone while they are deployed. You've got it tough enough without having to add that to the mix.
That happened to my son (Air Force) while he was stationed way over in Germany, so I know how you feel. As a military mom, I would recommend that you don't send her anything at all. If she asks "why", tell her the truth.
BTW: I'm sending you a Christmas hug, and a sincere Thank You for all your sacrifices. I can't wait until you don't have to make those sacrifices anymore. Please keep your head down, and come home safely.
2007-11-27 12:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an honest and nice guy but forget your gf now - why do you need to beat yourself up with her if she already started seeing other people? You need to CONCENTRATE on yourself first - you gonna go to Iraq pretty soon. And I never been in a military but I'd be very nervous about it.
Forget her, move on. Cut your losses and you need time to heal. If you guys were meant to be together, you two would have worked things out. So, it's not. People come into our lives for a reason. Best wishes to you and Godspeed! Make sure you come back alive.
2007-11-27 13:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't send her nothing. while u were serving our country bravely u were shafted by this girl u used u then broke up w/ u & went to this other guy. i would be hurt seriously. don't send her anything. forget her & date someone else that is on ur level like a responsible college girl or something. i know u still care for her but do u really want to marry someone like this that will trreat u like this in the future?
2007-11-27 12:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by conan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not send the gift I would wait till I got back home and found someone really special to give it to . also dont even send her a christmas card just let it go and say good bye and good riddens to the vermin she seems to be . good luck and god bless you and thank you for serving our country . Merry christmas to you all .
2007-11-27 12:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes me sick to hear about girls who have the nerve to break a soldier's heart.
I would send the gift to someone else who has been better to you, maybe your mom or a friend who is a girl. I know things are really hard when you are so far away, but this is the time when you find out who your true friends are.
2007-11-27 12:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Claddagh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the locally made metallic craft an IED?
i'm sorry - i couldn't resist. Hon you have to let it go. I wouldn't send her anything. Well maybe an email. But, she doesn't understand what you are going through over there, clearly. But as they say, if Uncle Sam wanted you to have a Woman, he'd have issued you one.
2007-11-27 12:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by China J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would send it to her or maybe your mother or sister and send her a card. Not awkward at all some women can't handle a man in the service my cousin couldn't for her religious beliefs Thou shall not kill that's what she said.
2007-11-27 12:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by sally sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋