my mother in law is mad because my boyfriend and i have been lying to her alot. so now she dosnt want me over. but then she tells me that she would like to tlk to me. i want to go over to her house this friday to talk to her and to fix things. should i?
2007-11-27 03:55:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you plan on staying with this guy then yes you should go talk to her. Mother in laws can help allot when you have questions about marriage or if you want to get to know your husband better who else is a better source. Be truthful to her then only person you are hurting in the long run is yourself because sooner or later you are going to get caught up in the lies which it seems you have already done. If you are serious about this guy it is a bad idea to get on the wrong side of his mother, then can really hurt your relationship with your man if he is close to his mother.
2007-11-27 04:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by zyah77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would meet her on neutral ground. I know it sounds funny but you will have more credibility if you are not in her house. Meet for tea ( or coffee) at starbucks or somewhere. Use this as an opportunity to stop the lying for whatever reason. It will set you free and clear your mind ( you prob lied so as not to upset her) . Use it as a start over time. When you talk dont get into the trivial details, just be warm, gracious and say lets start anew. ( I presume that you are calling her your mother in law because she is your boyfriends mother?) Or is she your ex husband mother? In any event, I find that 'working things out' never works when one re hashes what happened. It just ends up that one person wins the talk. So I would nt go there. If you in fact do not want to see her since you already think she will 'win' then just call her and say lets start over . period. If she wants to go into it just keep saying, you want to start over with a new beginning. Then act cheerful, gracious, warm and never discuss with her your private issues.
2007-11-27 12:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The adult thing is to go and talk to her. Be honest, own up to what you did and admit that you knew it was wrong. You should take this opportunity to tell your side of the story. Be wary though, if things get out of control or it is a jump all over you fest, leave.
Good Luck!
P.S. Only go if you are willing to really change, quit lying and make amends. If you're not, there is no reason to go.
2007-11-27 12:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a mother-in- law and a boy friend? What ever... just make things right and stop lying!
2007-11-27 12:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by annestl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If youre serious about this guy, their mothers are not the ones to piss off!!! LOL Im not saying kiss her behind but you should probably respect her if you want to keep your man around.
2007-11-27 12:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by scaballero85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes....call her up and ask if you can come over to talk on Friday. You need to clear the air.
2007-11-27 12:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that would solve the problem, why not! Sometimes need for you to be humble and give due respect to your in-law so you can settle the problem you have with her.
2007-11-27 12:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by jmjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think unless she invites you to do that, you should respect her wishes. You can let her know that you are sorry and that you are available any time, any place to speak to her.
You know, if my son had a g/f that caused him to lie to me, I would encourage him to get rid of you. Unless this is how he operates, you obviously aren't a good influence.
And she isn't your "mother-in-law", she is your b/f's mother and has no obligations to you whatsoever.
2007-11-27 12:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋