Been a a wedding reception where no one danced?

Question

My fiance things that noone in her family will dance at our wedding. Have you ever been to a wedding reception where no one danced?

Sorry for the gramatical and spelling errors, I'm usually not that bad!

Oh, there will be alcohol, although my fiance's family is from the south and is southern baptist so they definitely won't be drinking.

Answer 1

I presume you are referring to a reception with a dance floor and music...yes, I was at one reception where very few people danced. The groom was very particular about the music selection and banned most of the popular dance songs - Macarena, Electric Slide, Cha-Cha Slide, Chicken Dance, etc. It was also a dry reception - not even a cash bar. People left really, REALLY early.

I would suggest the popular dance songs, the ones listed above that really get people on the floor, dry reception or not. Even if her family doesn't dance, perhaps your family and some of the other guests will. Children love hitting the floor if they're present. And who knows, maybe if her family sees others dancing, they'll be inclined to join in.

Ultimately, the most important thing is that at the end of the day, you're married to the person you love. Remember that. It really does keep things in perspective. :-)

Answer 2

Lol!! I grew up in an area where almost everyone was southern baptist or some other type of conservative Christian. None of the weddings there - except the Methodists - have alcohol, dancing, or music that isn't church music. No big mystery why everyone thinks weddings are boring.

I think that you should go ahead and have music and drinks.

My fiance and I are completely non-religious, and we're dealing with some of my (baptist) family members who are upset that we're having a civil wedding in a historic mansion and that we're having wine and jazz at the reception. The way I see it is that if someone doesn't want to drink or dance, they can simply choose not to drink or dance. But there's no need for those people to prevent everyone else from drinking responsibly, dancing, and having a nice party. I think it's nice that you don't want to offend anyone, but the reality is that you can't please everybody. Do what you and your fiance want to do and let other people worry about themselves.

Answer 3

I'm not a big dancer, either, but the dj will get people dancing. That's why they always play that cheesey macarena crap, everyone knows it, even grandma. One of the things that keep people from dancing also is not wanting to be the first. But you guys will have your dances first. I've been to receptions that there was no dancing, but that was planned (and incredibly boring). I've never seen a wedding that they had a dance floor and music and nobody danced.

Answer 4

Will your friends and your side of the family dance? If so...then there should be no problem. Hopefully you have hired an engaging MC/DJ to help get people up to dance. The last wedding I went to only about 10 people danced, but it was still a fun wedding.

Answer 5

I've been to several. Many didn't have dancing due to religious issues which is fine. The other was a reception where the couple did the Ipod-as-dj thing. No one danced because the music was not danceable and it was a weird mix of songs. People even left early.

Answer 6

I've never attended a wedding without booze and dancing.

My family loves to dance (I don't!), and it's a great way to get the non-wedding party guests to be a "part" of the festivities (potential religious and other considerations, aside, of course).

As for alcohol, at my wedding, I would not allow any; sparkling, non-alcoholic drinks are just as tasty as sparkling wines and are better for you (did you know that the wedding party (parties) could be held liable if an intoxicated guest gets into an accident?). On the other hand, it might explain why I'm still single! ;)

Answer 7

Yes, it was a daytime wedding. Everyone felt weird about drinking and dancing at 1:00 in the afternoon!! Every single other wedding I've been to (20+), everyone danced. It's all about the music and the drinks:)

Answer 8

If you and your new wife are up on the dance floor, other people will follow suit. Make sure you tell your wedding party to get out there as much as they can, to keep it going.

You will still have a great time even if her family does not dance, don't let it get you down. It's one thing to not dance due to religious beliefs and another thing to not dance just because people are bored.

Answer 9

My wedding. Everyone was so into a family reunion of sorts that was taking place on a balcony of a reception hall that I rented, that no one wanted to come in and watch our first dance or dance themselves. We actually had an open bar, and let me highly suggest to you that you don't have an open bar. People get too drunk and unruly and then you wonder why you went to the great lengths (and expense) that you did because everyone is too drunk to remember or add to your day in a positive way.

Answer 10

Yeah, my brother's wedding. But that was because everyone that came to the reception and not the wedding was there for the food. It happens, but you just have to remember that as long as you two have your first dance, it will be the best day ever