Will the hard feelings for my ex ever fade away?

Question

I really hate my ex who broke my heart.So i am just wondring if these hard feelings will wear off.

Answer 1

You're probably thinking about him or her all the time. Everything reminds you of that person. The coffee cup they used to drink out of. The blanket they slept under. The places you used to go.

It's natural and normal. As social creatures, we're biologically programmed to take rejection hard. In the old caveman days, rejection could literally mean death.

You're not pathetic. You're normal and fine. You'll get over this.

Time heals all wounds. Yeah, yeah. Let's speed things up a little.Get busy. Distraction is essentialTalk talk talk about it with your friends - family, people who love you. Get all the negative energy out of your system. And when you no longer can breathe, or have a voice left, make a mental picture of all that had gone on, and put it into a box and store it in that attic/deep recesses of your mind. Do not go back into that proverbial room. Lock it away and picture yourself mentally climbing down from that attic, or up from that imaginary room and move away. If you catch yourself dwelling, remember the room in the attic/cellar and do that mental walk away.

Remember you are important. You need to rebuild your self esteem. Surround yourself with life affirming positive people, places and things, and in time you will find that perhaps life without this person is the best life there is. Some people just aren't meant to be together. To love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance..

Good luck dear.

Answer 2

As the old saying ( or was it a song?) goes, only time will mend a broken heart. In time you will feel better. While you are waiting you should stay away from the offending party as much as you can, and do not run out and try to replace them. Find time to spend with friends, or even a lonely aunt instead, just do not try to get by by yourself. Maybe you cant fill the place your ex took in your life, but you do not have to be lonely if you choose not to.
Ten years ago my Ex beat my best friend and I up on the town square. Today when I see him I feel sorry for him, because his mental illness has turned him into something pathetic. THAT was a LONG journey of the heart.

Answer 3

You will always remember what your ex did to you but yes, the feelings will fade away in time. The best thing for you to think is that HE made the mistake!! In time, you will be open for more good times yourself!!

Answer 4

Yes dear, they will. Time heals all wounds. My ex and I were together for 5 years and were planning on getting married, looked at houses and had gotten me a ring and everything. He cheated, we broke up, 4 months after we broke up he proposed to the girl he cheated on me with, with the ring he bought me. They're married now and he's MISERABLE trying to get me back because they're having problems. Took me 2 years to get over him and move on, but I'm happier now than ever. I kept myself very busy also, though, to keep my mind off things. I've been with a great MAN for 2 years and couldn't be happier. I didn't get with him until I was completely over the ex though, that's important. Don't open a door without closing one first.
Some things are blessings in disquise, but we don't realize it right off hand. Don't worry about him. Forgive him and move on. Let karma do the rest. Trust me, it definitely worked for me :)
Best of luck my dear, it hurts, I know

Answer 5

Yes, as you build new memories with someone else. If you resent some of the things he did to you, you are probably a bit angry at yourself for allowing it to happen. Or that you didn't see the real person in his behaviors.
At times, I dislike my ex more than other times, but it is the event, not him, that is painful. Like Christmas, or recently, I had to attend my granddaughter's baby shower at HIS home, with his new wife as the hostess. I couldn't let my granddaughter down; it wasn't about her. But the emotional pain was deep. I had to focus on others at the shower, and not be too upset as his wife continued to talk to me and show off their home, etc.
Hate him? I don't think I do; the hurt and anger when I remember the things he did to me (played with himself on our honeymoon night!). But I have a lovely husband, and when memories come up, I remember how bad it was in the marriage. Sometimes we have to remember the past to get back into the present; don't want to make those mistakes again, do we? But hate is a strong word. It would be good to put the word on paper, and write yourself a journal concerning your relationship with the ex. Purge yourself, and then move on. Forgiving, not forgetting, so you don't get caught again with the same type of man. It really is true that, when we hold on to anger, it hurts us not them. Anger always comes out somewhere, so get rid of it, by seeing how good your life is without him, or whatever else you choose to think about. Good luck...this is YOUR life, don't let him tiptoe into your thoughts and ruin your day.

Answer 6

Well, yes, but you have to let them go. This means you have to make a conscious effort to release the bad feelings and not to think about you ex. When he does cross your mind, learn how to redirect your thoughts to other things. Eventually, you'll wake up one day to realize that you have very little feeling left for him.

Answer 7

Anger is one of the range of emotions will encounter in your journey. Sadness and hurt are usually first then anger. Try not to dwell on it but understand this is the natural methods we humans have for disposing of discomfort. It will pass give it time. Dont rtush into anything new until you feel better

Answer 8

Yes they will. As time passes and you begin a new relationship, you will no longer have the NEED to harbor ill feelings toward your ex.

Answer 9

Time will heal this. Depending on what he did to you...it may take a while. I stuggle with this myself even after a brief relationship 3 months ago. You may always have a small twinge of pain when you think of him but it will fade. Hang in there.

Answer 10

They will, but only when you let them. Perhaps holding onto your anger is a way of holding on to your ex. Once you want to rid yourself of your ex completely, you will.