Usually you pick a shower theme such as a Kitchen Shower and people bring things for the kitchen. I'm 33 and my finace is 36. It's our 1st marrage but we both have everything we need for the house. What I want is to have a spa shower where people bring pampering things such as hair products, beauty products, perfume, etc...but I also would like the guest to bring me a few of their favorite recipes so I can put together a cookbook from our family and friends. I feel like if I just ask for a recipe, guests won't know what else to bring as a gift and I'll get stuff I don't need. People tell me to be specific and ask for what you what you want...but how do you have a Pampering/Spa/Recipe shower? I don't want to have 2 showers, just one. Any ideas will be appreciated.
2007-11-27 02:24:22 · 10 answers · asked by beehappy01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks Gracielacey for your support. Also, I should add that ever year I throw a birthday party for myself and pay for all the food , alcohol, etc. I'm combining my birthday with the bridal shower this year, having the shower 1 day before my birthday. I thought this was nice since it's the same people to not have a shower AND a birthday party so if I want to help the MOH with the shower ideas and gift ideas, I think I'm within my right. Also, I'm paying for all the food, alcohol, cake, prizes etc. I am trying to get gifts that I can really use and want so people don't buy me a coffee pot that I already have, then I take it back, they come over and say oh where's that coffee pot I bought you. You know you've ALL done it. I don't want to play that game....of taking stuff back because I didn't really want it. I do feel like the shower is about the Bride, not the house...that's why it's called a Bridal Shower...not a housewarming.
2007-11-27 06:25:46 · update #1
Why girls are saying that "its not up to you" I do not know..there is no reason why you can't request what type of shower you would like to have for your wedding.
Also, where I come from the shower is to get the BRIDE ready for her wedding and marriage - not for women to buy things off of the couple's wedding registry.
I think this is a great idea...I would ask the person throwing the shower to put a blank recipe card in each invitation and ask the women to fill them out and bring them to the shower to put in the book that could be sitting on the gift table...then they are on the same size card and you don't have to worry about redoing them. The women could even file them in certain sections.
So really, you could do a "pampering preparations/spa" party and ask the women to bring a recipe as a side thing if you wanted.
2007-11-27 04:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That defeats the purpose of the shower. If you already have everything for the house, then PLEASE do not have a shower so people can buy you shampoo and soap. Those are personal hygiene products and that has NOTHING to do with your wedding and people may feel offended by such request. What about a honeymoon necesities shower? The idea is for the couple to be able to enjoy those gifts together in their new household and butter cream doesn't fit that description.
I like the favorite recipe idea MUCH better.
Good luck
2007-11-27 02:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Actually, ETIQUETTE (which really is a wonderful thing to go by) says a bride who throws her own shower is looked at as greedy... And rightfully so. The whole point of the shower is to get household items for the bride and groom. This can be anything from things for the bathroom to cooking utencils. If the bride and groom already have/don't need household items, they should spread the word that they don't need a shower. Period. You obviously don't need a shower so I suggest (for the sake of those attending what you want to plan and to keep them from wasting money) not throwing this little party for yourself.
2007-11-27 07:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, your hosts pick your type of shower, not you. You can give them your ideas and then it's up to whoever is throwing the shower for you (and shame on you if you are throwing it yourself).
Though I would think a pampering/spa shower would be easy to pull off- just needs to be stated in the invite what is going on and what the theme is. Whoever is throwing the shower can include a recipe card with the invite with instructions to bring it with (maybe include in a card) on the day of the shower.
2007-11-27 02:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by KD 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be throwing yourself showers. first of all. Secondly, a shower is supposed to help you and your husband start your new life together- not set up a home spa for you. A "pampering" shower is extremely inappropriate, and you will offend at least some of your guests.
Register for kitchen items or fine china/ crystal (which you probably don't have). You can always use new sheets and towles, so register for those too, even if you set them aside for later. Then your host should ask your guests to bring their favorite recipes- but don't be too disappointed if people forget, because they always do.
2007-11-27 03:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not up to you to choose - it's for whoever is throwing the shower for you!
Don't worry so much about gifts, girl! Just accept graciously any gifts you are given, and be grateful!
Otherwise, you don't "need" a shower. The purpose of a shower is to help set up the couple with things they need for their home!
2007-11-27 03:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey thats a great idea,
What you do is spa and cooking is a good theme together
so tell your Maid/Matron of honor (or whoever is planning the shower) to include in the invites "Bring your favorite recipe(s) so we can compile a book for the Bride"
This is what i'm doing...i LOVE recipes
2007-11-27 02:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you could call it a "cook & clean" shower, and on the invitations ask for favorite recipes and then sutff to get the smell of them out of your hair lol...or what about "work & relaxation" or something like that? Good luck!
2007-11-27 02:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say what Tink said but she beat me to it! With a little creativity you can tie the two themes together!
Have Fun!
2007-11-27 02:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this "shower" thing is a bit gross. If it was suggested for me I woudl provide a "house" shower, where I would throw bricks and bits of plasterboard off-cuts at the chiselling bride and groom.
2007-11-27 03:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋