2007-11-27 02:17:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Geez all the suggestions to punish him astonish me.
He is just a tot.
He won't understand words like "inappropriate" and
he doesn't have any idea that what he's doing is
'wrong'.
One poster suggested buying him overalls - that's
a good suggestion for a start.
You don't have to treat him like he's evil - just mild
discouragement will do. If you say anything, just say
something like, "Hey keep your privates private."
If other adults are present make light of it with something
like, "Can't do that in front of people; you'll make Uncle
Barry blush."
- stay lighthearted, kind and constant.
He will soon grasp that it's a no-no.
Please don't just punish him. Teach him.
2007-11-27 02:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pandora 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would say most of this is just curiousity and normal. Try explaining to him that we don't do that in front of company and just keep reminding him. Explain to him there is a time and place for everything. Definately don't scold him for anything. Maybe get a book from the store explaining the part of the body for a preschooler. They have some great ones out there. That is what I did for my 4 year old daughter when she got curious, and it helped tremendously! Also explain to the daycare provider or your company what is happening, so they don't just think you are ignoring the situation.. Good luck, I know it can be frusterating.
2007-11-27 10:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by countrymomv4 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
little boys I have 2 and my BF has 3 so we have seen it all. Just think about it as grown up men do they like to keep it in their pants....well some of them still dont know how to. All jokes aside...he is old enough to understand that he is doing something wrong and there needs to be a consequence for it. we have a rule in our house since the boys were toddlers...anything your bathing suit covers is off limits to everyone except yourself. That means it should not be seen or touched by anoyone but you. this helps in alot of different situations. If he has a particular priviedge he likes even a tv program or favorite toy he should know that every time he does that he will lose time with that favorite thing.
2007-11-27 10:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just wanted to share my experience with this. You probably won't like doing it, some people tell me i was wrong for doing it. But it worked. I allowed my son to explore his body, touch himself, we learned all teh body parts include that part. But it got to where he was doing it all the time, grocery store, if me and hubby was talking about an item to get, he would get bored, stand up in the back of the buggy drop his pants and play with it. Nothing worked to try to get him to stop, i didn't mind it at home with no one was around its natural for them to be curious about their body, this area is covered all the time by pants so when they can get to it they want to see and feel it. But then again my son wasn't just playing he was pulling very very hard, he would turn himself red. I was scared he would hurt himself. So i just started telling him he was going to pull it off and be a girl, becasue girls don't have a penis. Didn't bother him until i had his sister, he saw me changing her one day and said hey where's he weeter(he won't say penis), i said she pulled it off and doesn't have one anymore. He doesn't pull on it anymore, he only "plays" and "looks" at it when he's in teh tub or pottying. So it usually passes, you just need to think of something in the mean time to stop him in the mist of company.
2007-11-27 12:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by babygurl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While it is a natural response for children to do so, obviously it is inappropriate in public or company.
One of the most important things to you need to share with your child is that his body is "special and private" and no one should ever touch it. And anything to do with his "special and private" body should be done in privacy. Don't make him feel ashamed of his body, however.
I did see an approximately six year old body do this at an ice cream shop the other day, and frankly, it was pretty gross and I was bothered that his father did not address it.
"Special and private."
2007-11-27 10:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by marianne 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You go over to him. You reprimand him. Don't touch yourself there. That's for pee pee only. Pick up his pants if you have to. Pull him into the sky a little to shake him loose of "touching the pee pee" thoughts. Show him a toy. You know, distract him? Keep on eye on him and if he does it again. Pick him up and place him in another part of the room so he has to think about making his way back to his toys or wherever. Just keep training him out of it. That's what I think you're suppose to do.
2007-11-27 10:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
LOL Not much but I have a 2 year old and we bought some over alls.It slows him down
2007-11-27 10:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
You need to put him in A time out this is really bad in front
of people you may end up loosing your company.
We had problems with a family member doing this, it
was A she and she was about 8years old, see you dont
want it to be out of control, can you emagine him doing
this at 8.
2007-11-27 12:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by koko 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
He is being selfish and inconsiderate. Encourage him to pull down the pants of his friends, sharing is caring and the bonds he will build and the friendships he make may serve to last a lifetime.
2007-11-27 10:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Distract him. Get his mind on something else. Its just a normal part of toddlerhood....although my 4 year old never went through it. But I have friends who's boys did it. But again....try distraction. Get him interested in something else.
2007-11-27 10:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by RR 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋