I need to understand why someone cheats. I have been cheated on and I am trying to cope with it. I just know that I would rather hurt someone by breaking up w/ them if I got in a situation then to hurt them later down the road worse bc they found out and for them to go thru the pain. Why do you cheat?! Why dont you break it off before something happens...why?! I just need some answers. Im not trying to make anyone out to be bad but I just need some help understanding.
2007-11-27 02:09:47 · 26 answers · asked by amf1691 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People want to have there relationship and there fling as well. Men cheat not because they dont like there spouse but because they want a bit of variety. If you dont tell up front there is a chance that it never comes out. Its not right, but it is part of our world.
2007-11-27 02:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by G Detroit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never cheated but this is my thought. I think they just want to have their cake and eat it too. Maybe there was something he got from you that he didn't want to lose and then something you didn't do he got from this other person. Idk. I have not been cheated on nor have I cheated however I did have a friend that cheated on her boyfriend and got pregnant by the other guy. Lets say we are no longer friends and her life has really went down hill since. She had an abortion. That is why we no longer speak. Anyways I agree why even be in a relationship if you can't commit why pro long it if you can't give that person your full love and attention. Just break it off. Honey I am sorry you have been hurt and you will probably never understand why he did it because it is wrong and it should have never happened. But that is my thought they just want to have it all and don't care who gets hurt in the process. Sorry I couldn't be of more help. Good luck to you and I am sure you will be back on your feet in no time. Later.
2007-11-27 02:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by ???? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to be as honest as I can here. I didn't cheat on my BF, but met someone while I was with him and sparks began to fly. What happened in my situation was that the new guy was showing me attention that I was missing in my current relationship. I broke up with my BF to be with the new guy, and I didn't want to do anything with him till I was out of the relationship. Thing is, I was emotionally unfaithful, which is probably just as bad as cheating. He was by no means a
"replacement". It was more like a rebound relationship that didn't go very far. I realized that I still had feelings for my BF and wanted to resolve the issues we were having. It all boiled down to me getting caught up in the attention I was getting from the new guy, I really wasn't interested in him at all. My BF took me back, and he didn't have to. I had to come clean with him, which was hard on us both, and we had some severe trust issues. It took us a long time to get over that. He felt betrayed, and I felt horribly guilty. He has forgiven me, but I don't know if I have forgiven myself. To give you a "why", it's because there is something wrong in the current relationship. Some people don't care about who they hurt, but I have a conscience and I just didn't feel right about it.
2007-11-27 02:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by *** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club rest assure I am not a hater...I am the one the side dishes want to hate cuz he stays or he always comes back. Even after getting involve with one that cheats I made it perfectly clear on our initial getting to know one another and throughout the years. Yes together for a long time. I do not tolerate nor have the time..when and if you get tired of me or the relationship; have the BALLS to tell me yourself..Nah that did not sink in; instead chose to test me. Bottom line girl I do not have an answer to as to why they cheat; I do not recommend to do what I do; All I can say is that when I say something I MEAN IT! I do not turn around and CHEAT. NEVER HAVE NOR WILL...But I do get THEM Real good...FLIRTATIOUS individuals are those who tempt others to do wrongful things...Honey really is not that bad!!! I wish you well and Happiness for this will come to you..
2007-11-27 02:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by !@#$% 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a period of uncertainty. I didn't want to give up what I had, but deep down I knew it was going no where in the long run. I had the comfort of someone with my boyfriend and the excitement of something new with the other guy. The feelings of butterflies and all that. I regret it because I know now how terrible it feels to be cheated on, even if you know the person wasn't' right for you. What goes around comes around.
2007-11-27 02:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by roxxygrrl13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why, I've been cheated on and i also have been the who has cheated to. I think it's because something is missing in the bedroom with the person. Sometimes you truely don't mean for it to happen but it does. i know in my situation i never ment for it. It's not right for anyone to cheat it hurts like crazy i do believe you need to get out if your always going to be a cheater. Trust me it's not you who makes them cheat it's them like i said in my own situation i felt bad and never done it again olny because i did love that person didn't want to hurt them if he would of found out.
2007-11-27 02:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Toni A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat because deep down inside they are angry or deeply disappointed with their partner or spouse and feel helpless to correct the situation that is making them feel that why.
This is either because they don't have the social skills to do so or they feel the other person has ignored their attempts to do so.
The whole point of cheating, rather then just ending the relationship, is to "punish" the partner or spouse for the neglect or hurt they've caused. Of course, for this punishment to work...the partner or spouse has to find out. That's why, sooner or later, the cheater will trip up and do or forget to do something that causes their partner or spouse to find out.
2007-11-27 02:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kaye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone might cheat in a relationship if they are not being satisfied or maybe they just can't help the circumstances that the cheating came about and at times people cheat because they purposely wants to hurt their significant other.
2007-11-27 02:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating comes from two factors in my opinion : lack of respect and not valuing the relationship. In other words, your partner either does not respect you or does not value your relationship enough to keep their pants on .
This may have been influenced by drugs or alcohol but really is not an excuse. Another common cause is immaturity - the other person just doesn't realize what they have. Do not tolerate this behavior. One time you may forgive but any more, see line one.
2007-11-27 02:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well darling, some people are just like that. In my opinion, that just shows that they have no self respect, and if they do not have that, how can they have respect for another?
Just be glad that it is over. And keep in mind, if the cheat once they will do it again. So don't forgive and take back!
Also, do not hold that against anybody else. That would be a shame.
2007-11-27 02:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋