Or would they rather they stayed sober for once or something else?
2007-11-27 01:19:19 · 32 answers · asked by witton ender 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
after eleven answers out of 14 so far I might just get her a card for once, but i'm not yet sure
2007-11-27 01:27:43 · update #1
My wife says not to bother but i'd be in the doghouse if i didn't !
2007-11-27 09:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by villavillain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that's my choices, I would pick sober w/o card any day!!
Really, this is a tradition that should either be established or not early on in the relationship. If the wife has given her husband a card on this occasion and other holidays since they dated, it's probably something she's in to and would appreciate. For me, cards are pretty much a waste of money, and I would prefer a demonstration of affection in a more personal and meaningful way--building a fire in the fireplace, fixing wassail or hot chocolate, planning an intimate holiday evening together, giving me a gift that shows he gave it some thought, or just taking time off work to spend time with our family and dutifully visit all the relatives on both sides says he cares at this time of year. Helping with Christmas decorations without cussing, griping, (or drinking), and helping shop and do "Santa" for the kids are other ways to step up and do the right Christmas husband thing. How about taking a silly digital picture and creating your own personalized Christmas greeting to either print and give or just e-mail? It's these one-of-a-kind gestures that mean way more to me than some stupid card that's only helping Hallmark and the local retailer!
2007-11-27 01:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It rather depends, how long have you been together? has your wife always got you a card? did you get her a Christmas card while you were dating?
I don't think you can compare the giving of a card to a wife preferring that her husband stay sober, as long as he enjoys himself and doesn't get so drunk he's falling down then I would think she would be OK with that.
I would say that if you have never bought her a card then she would never expect one, she may be secretly hurt by this or really just not care. I would say get her a card and surprise her, although be warned once you give the first one you can never go back lol.
2007-11-27 19:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would expect a card at the least,and if you were always drunk,then I'd want that to be a little less frequent too,and it sounds like you are always drunk when you said "or would she rather you stayed sober for "once".
It's ok to have a few drinks,but to get drunk more often than not would just p*ss me right off.
The fact that you are even asking this question regarding buying her a xmas card is insane,don't you love and respect her enough to want to do it anyway?
The way you worded your question was like she should think herself lucky to have one or the other.
However,if neither of you have ever sent cards in the past,I don't see a problem,cos it's what you're both used to.
Treat others as you expect to be treated and you can't go wrong!
2007-11-27 01:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well of course we expect a xmas card. i take she buys you 1 every year. a card means more than anything else because u have actually taken the time to choose 1.. & yes we would rather you stayed sober...just the once & the something else would be visit the card shop..probably would'nt even cost the price of a dink
2007-11-27 07:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by jean s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've come to realise that after 17 years I'm never going to get a card off my hubbie. I would be shocked if I did. They're a waste of money really.
Is this your first Christmas as a married couple? If it is then it would probably be quite nice to mark the occasion with a special card.
2007-11-27 01:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think a handwritten nicely picked out card is a gentle and sweet gesture....BUT u can also get around the unexpected to surprise the wife and throw a nice romantic evening dinner at home or out without her expecting that.....and then ....give her "the card" at the end of the evening ...writing how special she is to you....that is much more original...than simply buying a hallmark card who says it all for you and u simply signing ...love, your hubby.....my suggestion....for a romantic nice evening that can also lead to more romance once back home...
2007-11-27 01:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by LatinSpice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always do. Either get her a present or a card. It's like showing her that you care for her. And besides, it doesn't cause much.
(And the staying sober part is a plus too.. ;D)
2007-11-27 19:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Smileallday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you don't get many cards from other people it might be a good idea to make up the deficit.
I personally I keep the best of last years and put them up again, seems people remark how many mates I've got
You could do the same for your wife - just give her the old one again every year and tell her you're doing it for the planet lol
2007-11-27 01:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I won't be expecting a card from my hubby... A nice gift wrapped box under the tree with something sparkly in it will do the trick though....!
2007-11-27 01:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by JoJi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm are you sober right now??? A card with heartfelt words are sweet along with a special gift she will remember or something she needs/wants....
2007-11-27 01:22:20 · answer #11 · answered by Sierra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋