Recently the feeling has become overwhelming for her, she's been drinking heavily and doing a lot of sobbing over this issue. A few years ago she was pregnant but lost the baby. Right now she has everything going for her. She is a nurse, lives in a beautiful house with her boyfriend who is a doctor, but he already has teenage children and does not want to have any more.
2007-11-27 00:32:34 · 16 answers · asked by ckrug 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Whatever you do, don't use phrases like "it's not part of God's plan", "God will make things work", "If it's not meant to be...", etc. Even if she does believe that, it's NOT what she needs to hear.
As someone who's been through 4 years (and counting) of infertility and two miscarriages, my best guess is that what she needs is someone who will listen to her, to be a shoulder for her to cry on, and won't try to explain WHY everything has happened the way it is. If she's a believer, she's likely already considered what God's plans are, etc...what she needs from you is a friend to vent to, lean on, and help her get through it.
Good luck.
2007-11-27 00:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could try the usual "it's god's will" cliche, but I very much doubt it will make her feel better. In your world, it would seem that god doesn't want this woman to have children. It's probably best, then, to leave god out of this. Be a good friend, listen, be sympathetic, and maybe make some plans with her so she gets out of the house and doesn't sit at home drinking.
2007-11-27 00:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to speak honestly with her boyfriend.
Let him know how important it is to her.
If he still says no way, then she needs to decide what is more important, a child or her boyfriend.
Through out our life, relationships will come and go. Some lasting longer than others.
There is no greater bond than that between a child and a mother.
However drinking is not the way, what ever happen to saying thanks for what we do have. No ones life is perfect, but if we dwell on the bad parts, that's where we end up living.
This is her choice. Talk to her, offer your support, but you cannot fix this for her.
2007-11-27 00:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is still young enough to adopt. And, as we all know, there is always someone worse off. I am 56, and I have never had any children. I was molested by a family member as a child and ruined my chances of getting pregnant.The two men that I have been married to both had children by other women, so they never wanted to pursue other options.Now, I am divorced and alone.
2007-11-27 00:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop drinking
Have her communicate with him
See what matters most him or having children
Do you feel comfortable to tell her religious stuff? There are some stories in there about having children, having problems having children and the law of having children.
2007-11-27 00:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by יונתן 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure she needs advice, she seems to need comfort. Even more, I think she needs your prayers. Her problems are bigger than you or she can handle. They seem beyond solving which is where prayer comes in.
Ask Jesus to help her find her way through this time, to discover His love and peace. Pray that she can become a Christian - He can do so much to help her, we can't.
Jesus helped me through so many troubles and painful times. When a person has nice things, a good job, love....and it isn't enough, only God can help!
I reached a point of despair by age 18 and considered suicide. Some people helped me encounter Jesus Christ. He has healed many of my problems and pains, including the loss of 3 pregnancies and an addiction to pain pills. I was a hard case. If He can help me, you just know He can help your friend.
Listen to your friend, hug her often and pray like mad!!!
2007-11-27 00:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by LeslieAnn 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Err...it sounds like she needs a new boyfriend with the same goals. Rather you want kids or not is a deal breaker.
But at 41 it is pretty nearly to late. She better get on it.
2007-11-27 00:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I’m sorry on your pal… existence is crammed with irony isn’t it? She has a useful profession and a powerful boyfriend of a physician yet she can’t have babies. however the boyfriend doesn’t elect one? I’m only shocked she’s nevertheless inclusive of her boyfriend. many human beings could have broken up because of the fact they have been given too many distinctive priorities/matters in existence – one in each of them is having babies. only stay there for her by ability of being a solid pal. She should be extra responsive to how plenty she can tolerate to her eating in the different case, she could have complications if she gets too addicted to it. tell her – there are different consumer-friendly techniques to contribute if she needs to get contain with babies… There’s continually a baby sponsorship like worldwide ingenious and prescient – they’re continually searching for human beings to sponsor a baby from third worldwide united states of america! or maybe adoption – i comprehend it could get rather high priced… How approximately foster residences? team residences are continually searching for a foster relatives. or maybe volunteer? Like huge Brothers or huge Sisters – they’re very solid enterprise. there are a number of volunteer businesses that makes a speciality of babies and households. by ability of being a nurse herself, she is rather contributing to society. Remind her a nurse’s interest has perks too by ability of assisting others in the community. maximum suitable of large fortune on your pal.
2016-12-10 06:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by quartermon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first piece of Godly advice I'd give is to see check the Bible about relationships. It is God's will that children should be born within the bounds of marriage.
2007-11-27 00:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by Don 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She needs to leave this boyfriend and find a husband who wants children.
2007-11-27 00:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋