He was my first love and I knew him since we were 7 years old and basically grew up with him.... our families were really close. We were eachother's first puppy love and eventually dated when I turned 16. The last time I seen him was when I was 19. I moved on with my life, but still contacted him every now and then to see how he was doing. I was devastated to find out that he passed away, and I wasn't invited to the funeral, they said it would be too hard on them for me to be there(my family and his family had a falling out).
He has came to me in my dreams a lot over the past 7 years, but lately he's leading me to his grave. I'm starting to take this as he wants me to have closure, or he is hurt by the fact I haven't been to his gravesite? I don't know, but I just want to have peace & finally see that he is no longer here.
I've spent 30+ hours on the internet trying to find out what cemetary he's buried at. I can't ask his family, so how can I find him? PLEASE HELP ME
2007-11-26 23:30:13 · 8 answers · asked by Extremely sad 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Put his name in google, got nothing. After days searching I found a free database that actually showed that he is in fact deceased. It showed his s.s.#, year he was born, date he died, his family members.... but no burial info. I've also checked every newspaper in the area's archive databases, and nothing still.
I'm not scared of him in my dreams, but we were EXTREMELY close since childhood and I'm starting to think he's stuck here and can't cross over until I do this and he has closure.
I know it sounds crazy, but if you're religious you know how if someone's souls are connected anything is possible.
I'm running out of hope. I'll try anything, so if you can think of something even if it's sounds crazy please let me know.
2007-11-26 23:49:33 · update #1
Whoever keeps putting thumbs down to what these nice people are saying, that are actually trying to help me, you seriously need to stop.
2007-11-26 23:52:36 · update #2
Google his name, the obituary usually has the gravesite listed. If not Google, then the archives of the local paper where he lived. You could also ask the minister of his church, or a friend of his family...
2007-11-26 23:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This has nothing to do with the 61 woman. Get your degree and get out of there. It sounds like the stress of getting the PhD may be too much right now. Once you are at your new place of work, things should get better for you. What you really need is to learn how to relax and laugh. And find some good, new friends that are not involved in mathematics.
2016-05-26 02:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I were childhood sweethearts. In fact, I fell in love with her the first time I saw her at age 12, and never loved another woman. We married at age 22, were together for 23 years, and had two children together. She divorced me two years ago, and I haven't seen or spoken to her in six months or so.
Yet I dream about her every night. I wish I could stop. I've tried everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING. Still, she always finds her way in there somehow. Not the way she was when we divorced, mind you. The way she was when we were kids, before I made her the bitter woman she is now.
Love is strange that way. When we unwillingly lose someone that we are still very much in love with, even long after we've accepted the fact that they are gone, our minds still find a way to remind us that we still love them. In our dreams, for instance.
I wish you luck in finding out what ever answers you are looking for, and I hope that you find closure if you haven't yet found it. Whatever you do, though, don't forget to cherish the fact that he still comes to you in your dreams.
I am sorry I couldn't have been of more help, and I sincerely wish there was more I could do. Once again, good luck.
2007-11-26 23:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kemp the Mad African 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
OMG sounds like my story....mine is here...I can't visit him...it breaks my heart even more.
Do you know what city he's from? Check the city office to see if he's registered. I used to work at the city hall and I'd register dead people's names and the lot they were buried in, I was 15 when I was working there so I don't know too much on who can find out...
Hope you find him....good luck..
2007-11-26 23:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find out where he was living when he died and then hit the library and check the obits in the newspaper microfiche catalog.
You'll find him easily enough (or at least where he's interred).
2007-11-26 23:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can find the obituary in the local paper from then, it may list place of interment. I wouldn't let the family know you're going there though.
2007-11-26 23:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1) he's dead and he's appearing to you. a spirit might be, but not his. More likely you need something to be at ease.
2) you can ask his family. It's been seven years, right? surely someone in his family has gotten over whatever it was.
2007-11-26 23:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by MithrilHawk 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
this is a 'grave' subject, to flush.
grace is sufficient (no law req'd)
2007-11-26 23:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋