Um anyways it's really a weird question but please read on, I'm lost and I don't know what to do... so today I'm hanging out with my roommate and we're talking about girls and stuff and he goes:
"you have so many russian male friends, why don't you have any female friends?"
I kinda shrugged my shoulders but I kept thinking about it and here is what I came up with. I'm 21, and I have never had a female friend in my life, never... it always goes further whether I want it or not and I either end up having sex with them or dating them or whatever... I'm trying to understand women... how can I be good enough to sleep with or date but not good enough to be their friend? What do I do to make female friends rather than just keep going? How do I stop?
I mean I can stop shaving my face and talk about boring things but one thing keeps escaping me... how can I be worthy of sleeping/dating them but not worthy of being their friend? Isn't it backwards??? help me...
2007-11-26 21:54:38 · 3 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
someone once told me, there is no such thing as boy-girl friendship. if you think there is a pair like that, one of them always wants to sleep with the other.
get a g/f and become friends with her friends.
im sure as you grow older, one day you will realize you have friends who are women. it will just happen - co-workers, exes, people you went to school with...
2007-11-27 13:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by Daria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a common, often misunderstood one.
The young believe they must have sexual encounters with any member of the opposite sex if the opportunity comes available. Also, it seems people rush to the bedroom instead of finding out more about this gorgeous creature in front of them.
As people mature, have babies, or get horrific experiences with sex, they tend to shy away from the instant sexual encounters and try to focus on other things like careers, family matters, and possibly hobbies and/or religion.
If you let the "little head think for the big head" every time there's an opportunity for sex, you may not get the mental, emotional or spiritual satisfaction of really knowing that person. I wish you luck in your journey to self-control and relationships with deeper meanings.
2007-11-27 06:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, surely if you date them, you make friends with them first , right? Well if not, try to hang out with ladies instead of males , you'll definately make a female friend :) if you really want one !
2007-11-27 06:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by notybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋