Please Help!?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and we have a two year old daughter. We were once engaged but broke it off(we weren't ready). We now live in different cities because of our jobs and will be apart for the next 5 years. I love him and want have a life with him but that is a long time to be by myself. Should I end it and move on or should I try to deal with the time and distance and just stay together?

I have my daughter with me and he is a very good father, but his mother's opinion of me is very bad and I don't know why. She has never liked me and has told me such with no explanation. she has never let on to him that she doesn't like me and visiting is very uncomfortable as his family is in the same city as him. I am worried that his mother will hurt our future together.

Answer 1

People are all different in how they see relationsips. Some see relationships die because of the "out of sight, out of mind" rule.

There has to be a link between the two of you other than your two year old daughter. I don't know how far apart you both are, but to keep the fire alive, you still have to make commitments to the relationshiop.

A long distance relationship can and has worked before. You just have to keep the communication line open. Make sure that you give each other your schedules, to be open for phone calls and visits (if possible). Ifi you plan to visit each other, do things to re-ignite old memories like going to dinner at a familiar place or have some family activities to be set up.

Try not to grow apart. Aside from living in different cities, you will be introduced to diffrerent people, ways of life, and customs. To keep things interesting, talk to each other about anything new that happened that day, and even repeat your schedule for them while talking (saying, "I ate breakfast at 10" or "I had lunch at a park"), to make them involved with your life.

If you feel that it would be too hard much to handle, then discuss breaking it off and the future of your daughter. Your daughter should always be #1 for the both of you.

I suggest to do whatever you feel most fit. Whatever you do decide to happen should benefit all three of you.

Answer 2

Two questions:

1) Why isn't the future of the daughter in this post?
2) What job guarantees five years of not moving? Are you in the military?

There's more to this question than what you want out of it. We don't even know who has the baby and why.

Answer 3

dont break up! you have a 2 year old daughter to think of, and she will definitely be mad if daddy goes bye bye. besides, long distance relationships are fun. and, during holidays, you can go visit him for a while, its not like you're traveling from the Earth to the Moon and back! there are ways to deal with these things. just deal with it *caring tone* good luck :)

Answer 4

If you love him and you want to still be a family, hang in there. The both of you probably need this time to mature and realize what you really want out of life and for your family. No one knows true love when they see it, but everyone knows how it feels to be loved. If he loves you and vice versa, it will always be there..... Wait for him.

Answer 5

dont be so selfish


think abt ur daughter she need a father to take care off
jst dealll and deal

if he doesn't

then also do what ever way u hav left but do it...............

okay

dont fail

Answer 6

Move on for your daughter.

Answer 7

i think you should deal with time to stay together

Answer 8

try and stay together..b'cos you have child,so she need the love and care from both mom and dad..

Answer 9

Try and deal.
No one should ever give up on love.