Recently lost my grandad to a long battle with cancer and have just split up with my long term boyfriend. Am in the middle of a degree which is slipping through my fingers. Anyone got any successful tactics of getting back on the band wagon?
2007-11-26 20:47:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just try to resume some of the activities you were doing before things went chaotic but allow yourself to be sad and cry when you need to. Don't deny that you've lost two people very important to you and that you're still grieving. Please take time out when you need to rest. Talk about your grandad with people and enjoy memories of him and let yourself mourn him when you need to.
Give mementos of your relationship with your ex-bf to someone to look after because someday you might want them (you don't have to rat on him - unless he was a bastard- or whatever and remember the entire relationship as awful just because you ended badly. At some point you were probably friends and had some good times. You can also talk about him as he was probably a significant part of your life for some time...).
Avoid trying to be 'just friends' with him for now and focus on your studies. You may be able to be friends later on but for now you need to get your groove back. Also don't avoid group situations or mutual friends just cos he is there...you have as much right to their company and fun as he does...
Talk to your lecturers to get exemption from compulsory lecture attendance for classes you missed and ask other students for notes from classes you missed. Definitely see your campus counselor and see if you can get extensions on you coursework and special consideration on your exams on compassionate grounds.
You are not asking for a hand out but have genuinely been in a situation that has affected your ability to study. Seek retrospective withdrawal without academic penalty if you fail because of this...defer a semester if you need to re-group, but don't drop out. This is just a temporary situation and an education is an investment for life...good luck sweetie.
2007-11-27 04:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by Cat S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well unfortunately its all in youre mind!
theres not much we can do but to tell you God has a future and plan for everyone never give up ,
ur grandpa is happy with God and ur BF pfffff youll get a better one soon, as for ur school dont give up and keep in there!
Good luck! Take care
2007-11-27 04:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by wiiguy 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need time to grieve, but never lose sight of your life goals and dreams.
2007-11-27 04:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by revoltix 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋