ok i created this fake profile(fake pics&fakeinfo) to see if my ex was cheating after finding out he was a couple of weeks later i logged back in to cancel the account in the inbox was this hot guy messaging me (he lives in la and im in chicago but my plans were to move to la in a couple of months which caused me and my former boyfriend to argue) so i messaged back and now its this big lie we talk to each other on the phone and text all the time and im falling so fast for him i dont know what to do.i dont want to lose him im so clueless right now hes like sooooo perfect and im 19 and hes 19 and hes the only guy i know of in los angeles and we have all these plans...... Please Help Thanks for reading and answering
2007-11-26 20:30:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, sweetie, please slow down. You really can't "know" anyone on here or on the phone. People are not the same in real life, well, hardly ever anyway. You've also fallen for someone after being in an unhappy relationship. Don't tie yourself to any one person right away after this happens. It blinds you to the new person's faults because they are anyone but the person you are unhappy with. Later, if the relationship doesn't survive, you are even more unhappy and confused.
Let yourself grieve for the loss of the first relationship, let the "Hot Guy" know that you are planning to make many friends in your new home, not just him, and that you hope he will stay your friend and help you around LA when you arrive.
Good luck and good journeys, you have so much time ahead of you (I'm jealous, too! LOL). But I've lived through similar experiences and know where you are at in your head and heart right now. Slow down and keep your eyes open while you enjoy this person's friendship. Just don't exclude others as friends. :)
2007-11-26 20:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are so freaking clueless. Wow, u met someone who is the same age as you. I never heard of such a thing. 1st off He's not perfect because you don't even know him. I laugh at people when they think they know someone because they seen a pic and chatted with them online. LOL... Get over him, & move on. FYI: Your 19. Why don't you stop worrying about a man, and focus on starting a successful career. Goto College
2007-11-26 20:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to bite, but...
Tell him the TRUTH!
It's likely that he might already suspect that you might have given him a skewed version of reality. If he really loves you (and I mean YOU, not the pictures) he will probably consider this for some time ( and I think he's entitled to the time ) and come back to you.
If all else fails... remember that LA is a HUGE city with thousands of possibilities... . Yes, it might take some time to link up and get accquainted with people but no one person is the end of the world! :-)
Take care, give yourself and the world some time, and try to enjoy your quest.
2007-11-26 20:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are now single, and you are really attracted to this new guy, I can't see the problem. As long as you ensure your safety, where's the harm in seeing where it might lead? Of course you do need to come clean about your fake ID and the reasons behind it.
2007-11-26 20:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by candolim_imp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone hides behind their computer screen in one way or another. Right now I'm in my undies..... see..! Anyway, if he's not lieing to you too, I guess the best way to handle it would be, honestly. Before you meet up with this guy, come clean, tell him the whole "yadig". If he's not a total phsyco, he'll understand.
2007-11-26 20:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by msjah1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fruits of a lie are bitter. Best to 'fess up real quick. The alternative, he will never ever trust you when he does find out the truth.
2007-11-26 20:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like your profile was a fake one, there is no guarantee that the other profile is not fake.
Be careful and you are at an emotionally vulnerable stage. Ask your sixth sense what you should do. Good luck!
2007-11-26 20:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have to tell the truth, its only gonna get worse to the point where u hurt him bad, wehn i first met my fiance on the internet she sent me a fake picture cause she was scared of people on the net, seeing the picture she saw i knew it wasnt her so i didnt even pay attention to the picture, after awhile we got closer she said she had to tell me the truth and she sent me her real picture and BOY! was i pleased, she was nuch more natrual and beautiful then the fake picture she sent, her being honest showed me she cared for me alot and it took off from there, dont be afraid do it now!!! if you dont youll never forgive yourself.
2007-11-26 20:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by the_real_eaglesfan03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to spring the truth on this guy soon. If he's all that, don't lead him on....like your boyfriend did to you.
I'm looking at a bunch of childish behavior from both of you. If you ever want to have love, both of you are going to have to get in the habit of the truth.
2007-11-26 20:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, who would have thought a relationship created out of a lie would have problems later down the road?!
Have fun with this, and think next time you're tempted to lie.
2007-11-26 20:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by Tyler Y 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋