2007-11-26 20:30:31 · 8 answers · asked by mizpew 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i meant more for this question to be on the key of rapist. could it even be a family curse. two generations that i know of and it seems asif i might have a little tendacy in myself
2007-11-26 20:49:52 · update #1
It's not a gene, but a "learned response" that passes from adults and older siblings to younger children.
People simply have to learn to calm down.
2007-11-26 20:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know we have not found a "beating the crap out of your children gene" so I would say no. If somebody grows up in an abusive household, then they are much more likely to grow up to be abusive themselves. But that doesn't make it a sure thing. If you are worried, being aware is the first way to avoid it. If you grew up in an abusive houshold you will just need to continue to be aware of your actions, and try not to repeat the past. If you are really worried, counceling wouldn't hurt.
2007-11-26 20:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by evil_kandykid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you about the gene, but most of the time if we are around an abusive person too long some of their dis functions rub off on us, now this doesn't mean you'll be abusive yourself. If you have doubts about this find counseling because it's better to sort out your doubts and troubles than to make serious mistakes in life that'll drag your life. Seek help if you need it, you'll appreciate it.
2007-11-26 20:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by violetblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,honey, there is no gene. If you were the one abused, you may have a tendency to follow suit. If you are worried that you may be an abusive parent, talk to a counselor, he or she can steer you to the right reading material or support group that can help calm your thoughts. You are wise to be thinking about this, so once you get more information, you will be able to calm those fears. Best wishes.
2007-11-26 20:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by older is wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that I know of. It's more of a learned thing that kids adopt when they get older and treat their kids the same way. The best remedy against this in my opinion is educating oneslf from experts like Dr Phil and whoever else you can find who know what they're talking about.
These people have some really solid advice.
2007-11-26 20:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not hereditary but it is a learned thing. You will have to make a conscious effort to not be like your family. It will take a lot of hard work cuz kids can get on your last nerve but you can do it. I found that when at my wits end i would call grandma or auntie and have them "take over" for a bit so i could get myself back together. If you think your out of control get help.
2007-11-26 20:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by mick_st_john_ooo_la_la 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there issnt it is purly how one has been brought up and the frustrations off life and little understanding which causes many to react without thought..
Love Always
2007-11-26 20:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Apolo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not hereditary but you can learn it,
Especially if you experience this in your life in some way,
2007-11-26 20:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by internetghost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋