I know the whole take her somewhere romantic thing. I've done it. Ive taken her out of town for a romantic trip, I do candle dinners at home. She's always had self esteem issues and I want to help her as much as I can.
2007-11-26 20:03:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Work with what she likes about herself. If she is overweight and has a flabby tummy... don't touch her tummy. If she has nice eyes... compliment them and mean it. If you love her boobs... show her!!!
2007-11-26 20:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by AmberLynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just say it , but rather show her with actions that you think she's beautiful.
How would you react if a friend introduced you to a friendly, down-to-earth girl who you think is drop-dead gorgeous? Let's say this is the first time you meet her, think about the things you would do if you became comfortable with that girl and that should help you figure out how to make your g/f feel beautiful.
I'm not saying that you can't picture you girlfriend in this situation but I think when we get used to a person the initial excitement and curiosity we feel fades away even though the relationship becomes more real an intense. I think that at the beginning stage of a relationship is when men makes us feel more beautiful.
Some things I can think of are:
- Stare at her intensely without saying a word and give her kiss.
- Wake her up with hugs and kisses and tell her she's beautiful (she just woke up, she has to believe it lol)
- Let her catch you staring at her and when she does smile and look away or blow her a kiss. :)
-Acknowledge whenever she's wearing something unusual or something that looks really good on her. Let her know you like her make-up, her hair or even her shoes (if you really do!)
- Fight the desire to look at the gorgeous girl that just walked by you in the presence of your g.f (out of respect).
But the most important thing is to be HONEST, and let her know that she's beautiful whenever you FEEL IT don't just say it to make her feel good because she will sense that you are not being sincere.
2007-11-30 19:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by hellogirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were out of your comfort zone, wouldn't you try to do things to make you feel like yourself? Have you tried doing things that she's wanted to do, or participate in something she's good at? You could play a sport she enjoys or watch a movie.
Do things with her where she is confident and in control. Perhaps you could try ice skating, or doing some activity where she has the upper hand or something you've never tried before.
Maybe you can cook something together; like baking some cookies or making some spaghetti. Spaghetti is pretty easy. If either one of you can cook, or if both of you can't, it's still an activity to have both of you participate in making something together.
Another idea you could try is karaoke-ing or dancing.
When I'm with my girlfriend, I try to find something to complement--something different; either it be makeup, her smile, or her energy that day. When I'm with her, I try to show affection--the usual holding hands / arms / goofing around type of thing.
Do everything possible to make her comfortable and to make the focus of your time together just that. YOUR time, not anybody else's .. so that the people around the both of you won't matter as much.
Just give her your attention when you're with her and make her feel like she's the most important person in your life--cuz she is (i hope).
2007-11-27 04:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Self esteem is VERY difficult to develop once a person is grown, but it can be done. However, the motivation has to come from within. No matter how kind you are to her, she will always have self-doubts until she decides that SHE wants to develop her own self esteem.
The most that you can do is to be accepting and loving.
2007-11-27 04:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can only do so much for her... The rest is up to her. She NEEDS to love herself for WHO she is... Confidence, but, not overly confident, is way more attractive to people, then the beauty on the outside... Most importantly, she needs to love herself, before she can love someone else and self esteem issues will destroy relationships.
2007-11-27 04:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by deleted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word in self-esteem is SELF!
You really can't enhance someone else's self-esteem.
Compliments don't work. They won't believe them anyway.
Her problem is very deep, and it was there possibly even before she was born.
You can be encouraging, but she has to work on that one alone.
2007-11-27 04:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whenever she ll say..."im not beautiful" ...Tell her -"yeah i know u aren't beautiful but why do i feel u r the most beautiful gal for me " . Don't try to explain that she is beautiful......try to tell her that u love her the way she is . And slowly she will gain confidence.
2007-11-27 04:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her everyday that she looks beautiful. just try to give her compliments to boost her self esteem.
2007-11-27 04:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to say anything too cheesy or she'll think you are just making things up. Also, be honest. Don't say something if you don't mean it!
2007-11-27 04:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a hard question. maybe ask her where she thinks this has started. maybe she has to relive some of her bad experiences to realise that she can finally get over it
2007-11-27 04:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋