Why do I feel this way?..Any ideas on how to get over it?..?
I have a friend who I have not spoken to in over 11 months now due to her lack of interest as a friend & questioning me on something she felt she did have to apologize for. I vowed unless she made the first move, I would not talk to her. But out of now where subtly apologized sending me a gift via online, a flower. She had no message with it. I resent her the same gift saying "Thanks for the flowers." We both are college students; live in different states. I do want to get back to talking to her via aim, as thats how we communicate best. But every time I get on,***** I can't seem to send her a message, I'm just afraid history will repeat itself. She also knows I'm available, but won't do the first move. *I never told her I was mad, I just ignored her on aim & eventually she got the hint, she so sent the gift as an apology to "amend" the friendship, *it's my take thats the logic behind it. Any ideas on how I should be with her/if I should do it ?.
2007-11-26 18:47:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
what exactly did she do to make you so mad at her?
and you said you want her to make the 1st move, but then went onto say, you ignored her when she was talking to you on AIM.. this doesn't really make sense to me as it seems as though she was making the 1st move.
just think about it this way, what are her best qualities? why do you need her in your life?
you haven't spoken to her properly for the past 11 months, so would it be so bad if 11 months turned into forever?
but i believe:
if a friend makes you feel this bad, then their not worth being friends with!
2007-11-26 19:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful - 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she seems to be playing games with you, which isn't a good thing. Not very nice at all.
All you can do is wait for her to make the first move, again. It seems she likes to be the one in charge of what's going on with you two - if you don't mind that then ok. I personally wouldn't put up with it.
Anyway, since you cant contact her, you'll have to wait for her to contact you. Unless you want to show her that you're tired of her controlling games, and make yourself unavailable or if you can block her from contacting you, then do that.
What a sucky situation. That's not nice on her end.
2007-11-27 02:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
life is too short eh? just get on with yours... this is such small stuff in the scheme of things. you are probably a lovely sensitive person but you don't need to waste time with someone who isn't interested in just being honest with you. maybe you could just come totally clean with her and call her and talk about it. if you don't care that much for the relationship to bother then just move on. keep it civil if she contacts you but don't put yourself out there to be hurt if you don't feel that she's someone you can really trust. invest your time in energy in yourself your studies and the people around you that you love. :-)
2007-11-27 03:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by blooming and flying 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are both playing games. If you want to be friends, why not just email her and tell her you'd like to talk! If not, just ignore her. You are the only one who can decide if her friendship is worth anything to you.
2007-11-27 05:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't.
2007-11-27 02:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋