heterosexuals! is your sexual orientation a choice or were you born sexually attracted to opposite sex?

Question

just curious what ya'll think but its a serious question and ill appreciate you treat it seriously. thanking you

SDW: are you for real? im not doubting you just asking for clarification. you knew you were sexually attracted to the opposite sex at 2yrs old? you knew the attraction you felt for the opposite sex was SEXUAL?

how did you even know what sex meant?

sly phy: i put it here on R&S because its a question of morality...in the same vein as all the "homosexual" questions on here

very interesting indeed. seems to be 50/50. im wondering whether those of you who claim you were born hetero say so because you believe the same applies for homosexuals...hmmmmm

morganie: do you think you were born bi-sexual...obviously faithfulness is a choice. just need you to clarify your position...do you think you were born sexually attracted to both sexes?

this is my opinion. my opinion is based on my belief that God exist and that He is Love. God created us in His image. male and female He created us. He created us as spiritual beings with bodies. Our spirit (uality) is not concerned with sexuality. He created us heterosexual (in the sense that He intends for a man to be with a woman - i.e one man to one woman) therefore we are ALL born heterosexual.

Due to circumstances and feelings beyond our control we make a conscious choice as to our sexuality. it is a choice to deviate from how God created us.

so i believe i was "born" heterosexual because of my religious beliefs.

however the choice to choose our sexuality comes after we are aware we have a body (genitals) with the capability of feeling sexually aroused depending on our object of desire.

i chose to be heterosexual.therefore i chose not to deviate from what is natural.

you may judge me homophobic..is so youre completely off track. this is simply the way i see it

marty: brother, God bless you for sharing. i understand what u went thru. sexual abuse will warp anybodys sense of most things including sexual identity, preferences and desires.

Answer 1

ALL sexual orientation is a choice based on the given environment of a person as they grow up and are exposed to more and more things about life. Granted, it's influenced by a LOT of teaching both good and bad, but no one is "born" knowing what their sexuality will be like.

Answer 2

There are chemicals in the body called Pheromones . These are responsible for sexual attraction . But following their inclination is NOT necessary for sexual enjoyment . In some cases people feel more comfortable rejecting their influence ( sometimes due to abuse or other stress ). And sometimes their pheromone systems are contrary to the heterosexual norm . Complicating the matter is GENDER identity which has to do with hormones and other brain chemistry .
Having said that ... My desire for the opposite gender appeared when my adolescent hormones kicked in . But if I had developed an adversion to sexual intimacy with females my sexual drive would have sent me towards the alternative , males . Or if I had developed a compulsion to be with a male , I also would have preferred males . Or if I had been BORN with a gender identity difficulty , or pheromone system difference I might prefer males .
Now was I born heterosexual ? Yes ! BUT all Heterosexuals are capable of enjoying bisexuality IF they choose to develop that trait . Likewise all Homosexuals who are born that way ( W/ Pheromone System differences , or gender Identity Difficulties ) are capable of enjoying bisexuality if they choose to develop that trait . But note that in developing bisexuality the person is not changing their core self being Heterosexual or Homosexual .

Edit : The #1 reason males develop an aversion to being intimate with females is an OVERLY close relation/attachment/dependance with the mother figure .This can also be a very strong influence on the female .The # 1 reason females develop an aversion to being with males is abuse ( rape , beatings , humiliation etc.) by the father figure . But both the female and male can sometimes become addicted to being with someone who represents the abusive father .

Answer 3

I don't think I was born a heterosexual. I certainly didn't feel any sexual feelings til I was well into puberty. I have 5 brothers ands 2 sisters. I was a Tom-boy, hated dresses, preferred playing with the boys - climbing trees, building cubby houses, and riding my bike. Only had one doll that I can remember.
But I am married to a good man, for 23 years, have 4 kids, and am absolutely faithful, and have no attraction to women.
But I don't know that I was born that way.

Answer 4

Everything we do is a choice. I have no desire for the same sex but if I chose to be with them what can stop me? I can say I am attracted to Denzil Washington does that mean I have to act on it?If we were able to be born gay how come two women cannot have a child? I don't deny that gay people have genuine feelings and emotions towards the same sex but that does not mean they were born that way. What would happen if we all turned gay? Humanity would eventually become extinct. Should we depend on sperm banks to reproduce. If technology did not provide these things what would gay people do? How would there so called generations reproduce? God does not make mistakes. Men were made to be the givers and women the receivers. So you mean to tell me it is perfectly normal for a man to enter another man's rectum. So you are going to tell me that the anus was made for things other than bowel movements. You think it is normal for a women to strap something on to please another women? Why try to imitate what a man can do if you don't need a man? I don't buy it for a minute. Yes I choose to be heterosexual. If I wanted to be gay nothing can stop me but I choose not to be gay. The only things I could not choose is how and when I was conceived and my gender. As soon as I was old enough to think for myself it was all my own doing. I am who God says I am. Why should I allow my lineage to become extinct because I don't want to copulate with my male husband. The truth shall set us free.

Answer 5

It's a choice. I wasn't born a thief, a liar, or murderer either, but I think everybody is born with the potential to deviate from what should be normal. Some people have more potential than others because of their upbringing and, controversially, from family history. Some people have problems stealing, for whatever reason, but they would never murder. Others murder, but would never steal. Others choose homosexuality, but are not thieves.

It's all about choices, and sometimes the choices are not easy, because of something seriously lacking in the person.

Answer 6

I was molested at age 9 and it warped my sense of what was a healthy sexual identity for me.

After I experienced sex with a woman, I simply couldn't handle the idea of homosexuality because it just didn't feel right. So I guess in my case, it was a choice.

Good luck

Answer 7

you are creating a false dichotemy. You are assuming that there are two choices involved. Either choosing homosexuality or hetrosexuality. The fact is there is a third choice: Doing nothing. You see if you don't choose you still have default sexual preferences. And that default will always be hetrosexuality.

Answer 8

Well I used to think I was born this way, but then I read some work by Alfred Kinsey (I'm sure you know him, inventor of the Kinsey scale of sexuality) that said orientation can be changed over time. Kinsey was a heterosexual and then claims he became bisexual. Very interesting stuff, especially since the homosexual community stands behind Kinsey's other work so vehemently...hmm....

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alfred_Kinsey
QUOTE Kinsey himself avoided and disapproved of using terms like homosexual or heterosexual to describe individuals, asserting that sexuality is prone to change over time, END QUOTE

Answer 9

My first 'feeling' of sexual attraction was towards the opposite sex. I have never felt attracted to the same sex.

I can't say for sure what made me straight but all I know is I've always been that way.

I have had this converstion with my best friend (who is gay) and his experience is pretty much the same - but with the same sex.

Not sure what this has to do with R&S

Answer 10

I was born this way. I can appreciate the beauty of the female form, but I have no sexual drive toward it. It's just not the way I'm wired.