My boyfriend's ex won't leave him alone! It needs to stop, I just don't know how to tell him! We've been together for a year now, and while he doesn't txt or e-mail her a response, she won't quit nagging! What do I do?
2007-11-26 17:23:46 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u shuld take ur boyfriend in front of her and start kissing him and make her jealous
2007-11-26 17:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Holly Golightly 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he's not talking back?
Why would any rational person nag & nag for a YEAR when the person they were after completely ignored them, and showed that there was no room for hope at all?
You need to discuss this with him, and let him know how you feel about the situation. He may have something to say that'll make you feel better about it, or he may start trying to make it stop.
2007-11-27 01:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by sayjo_x33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he absolutely never responds to her, he's doing the exact right thing. If he contacts her to say, "Leave me alone", it will actually ENCOURAGE her. His ex will see any contact as a "chance" to get close to him. All he can do is ignore her and hope she will get bored. Unfortunately, some people are a little delusional and won't go away. And there's very little one can do except give them zero attention.
2007-11-27 01:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember his actions speak louder than her words. if it bothers you that much why haven't you been able to communicate openly and honestly with him about this?
As for the other response you have gotten so far... He is clearly and ignorant soul clueless about relationships. If she is the problem you do not kick him in the balls.
Violence is never the answer and even more so if it is misdirected violence.
2007-11-27 01:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Seekarye Shaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex kept messaging me after we broke up. I never responded, but he kept trying to get in touch with me. It got to the point where my boyfriend told him to stop. He wasn't rude, he just told him that it bothered me and he needed to stop. And he did.
But it is your boyfriend's place, as the male, to take charge in this situation. Ask him to ask her to stop. Tell him that it bothers you. Don't make him feel like it's his fault; he didn't ask for her to harass him like that. If he e-mails her back and asks her to stop e-mailing him and she doesn't, ask him if you can ask her to stop. Don't be rude, just tell her that it is making him and you uncomfortable and you would like her to stop.
If she won't stop after that, she has a real problem that she needs to deal with. Then you either accept that she won't go away or you take action to force her to go away. Have him block her e-mail address and call his phone service provider to have her number blocked. That should get the point across to her pretty quickly.
2007-11-27 01:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year??? And with no encouragement, she's still pursuing him? Sounds fishy.
If he is absolutely not talking to her, emailing her, asking friends about her so it gets back to her, then he has grounds for a restraining order.
If i were you, i'd be suspicious of him. As a woman, would YOU chase someone for a year that was in a happy relationship and made clear they didnt want you?
2007-11-27 01:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quick, call the cops!
Now, seriously, call the psych doc.
I think your bf is being nice to her, possibly too nice.
Pehaps he needs to man up and tell her in no uncertain terms that if she ever contacts him again, he'll huff and puff and get a restraining order.
2007-11-27 01:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you need to tell him anything? if he isn't responding to him what can he really do about it? other then change emails and phone number,maybe home address,sometimes i have girls that won't leave me alone but nothin i can do about it,but if he responds to these then you should let him know that you don't like it and ask how would he like it if it was you doing this
2007-11-27 01:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what I get out of this is the your boyfriend still has the same number he should change it, he should also change his e-mail address also and if the he still gets these messages then he is the one to blame.
2007-11-27 01:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by D3ATHSYTH3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously still has feelings for him. The only clear way to solve this is to just talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him to make her stop calling. I think he hasn't done it before because he was trying to be nice and I think once he does, she'll stop.
2007-11-27 01:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by silvia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure it sounds like he's having a problem with it. You are. If you haven't told him it's bothering you, what's stopping you? ( I wonder how you know he doesn't respond to her. Maybe he does?) He could stop it just by changing his phone number and email address, if he wanted to.
2007-11-27 01:28:19 · answer #11 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋