well i continuously hurting my dad, mom, and sister feeling. I talk with no respect toward my dad and i always get mad at him easily. I tried not to but in the end i always being rude to him.I know i am wrong but i just can't help it. With my mom i talk rude without realizing that i am being rude. I always made her sad because i dont have any friend at my new school. Well i do but no one to hang with. She always want me to pay attention to my appearance which i couldn't care less. I also tell her if i have problems especially when i fight with my sister. She has high blood pressure but i always forget it is as if all i care is my own feeling and how i got hurt. With my sister i always have this mood swing especially when i hang with her and her friends. I mad because she doesnt pay attention to me, all she cares is her friends. i embarrassed her by making them see me as this girl who mad without reason. Now she doesnt want to bring me along as much which make me feel lonely, cont.
2007-11-26 16:35:04 · 3 answers · asked by itsme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
now i regret what i have done to her. I am alone because i made it happen. I dont try to get friends, or be open with her friends, or respect her in front of her friends. why do i always feel right. i always think that a sister should care about her sister especially when she knows that i am alone at home. she told me that she is not responsible to be with me when i am alone but i just got mad to my self. i already embarrassed her i dont know how to act in front of her friends anymore. i want them to like me and not think bad about me. i dont know if i can do it or not. i also want to contact my friends so we can hang *because i never ask them to hang with me* do u think i could make them like me again... i know they love me.... but do u think they can ever like me again. i want to change
2007-11-26 16:41:18 · update #1
I remember feeling the same way when I was younger. The things you are feeling are normal. I remember fighting with my mom, going in my room to cry and wishing she'd come in and make things better like when I was little. But I knew if she did I would yell at her to get out. Things got better as I got older and we got along great. I had a really bad temper, but I learned to control it. I found out that I was happier not fighting. It took a while, but I did it. You will start to care about your appearance as you get older too. Mood swings are normal. Your sister acts like she only cares about her friends, but she cares about you too deep down. When you grow up she will be your best friend. Can you join a club so that you can make some new friends? It will make you feel better about yourself. Maybe you can ask your parents if you can get some counseling. Insurance usually covers it. Then you'll have someone to talk to about all of this who won't judge you. Also, they DO like you and love you very much even if they don't seem to. They are just frustrated - just like you!
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Maybe your sister wants her friends to herself. It sounds selfish, but it's pretty normal. Since you have friends, why don't you try to get with them more often? You can also try to make new friends. I know it's really hard, but you sound like you'd be a good friend. Try to spend less time with your sister's friends. She probably just needs some space. It's not about you. It's about her. There's nothing wrong with either of you, it's just normal. Please find someone to talk to. You could show your questions and the answers to your mom. You might be surprised. She will understand better than you think. I'm glad that you know they love you. It shows that you have a good family!
2007-11-26 16:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that you can only change yourself, and not anyone else. If you want to be lovable, and not lonely, then take steps to change. Stop getting mad at your family, and start being a part of them. Keep your room and yourself up. Do your chores at home, and homework. If you change for the better, then your sister will start treating you better. If you keep up your old attitude, then nothing will change, and perhaps get worst. It is your choice.
2007-11-26 17:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by denise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your sister, mother, and friends a explain youself.
also,maybe some professional counselling would help.
2007-11-26 17:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋