I've really messed up this time.. I'm the type of idiot that pushes people away, and I pushed my boyfriend of a year and a half away for the last time. I came to college and told him i needed to find myself and that I needed a break (I was afraid of letting him love me) and then we tried again, but now he said he needs time to think and that he loves me but doesn't want to be with me. Nothing makes sense without him. He's the type of guy who listens to every word, and helps me no matter what. He's so amazing, and I need him in my life. I don't think I can do it without him. If anyone knows of a song, or a good way to show him how I feel.. or any advice at all, I would really appreciate it.
2007-11-26 16:20:01 · 6 answers · asked by Smiley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What he is saying is that he doesn't want to be hurt or rejected again...he is afraid to get back into the relationship with you for fear that you will continually push him away. If you can't make it without him and you know that he still loves you, perhaps you really should just give him some time and space. It is amazing what a little bit of time can do. He may need time to clear his head, and he may really respect you in the end for giving him some space.
2007-11-26 16:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gave you some time, give him some. Don't push right now but be there....a hard line to walk but he sounds like he has had enough Drama and need to work some things out. He says he loves you so trust him a little and let him work it out.......when he is around, just be there and stop with the need, need , need thing, I think that is a big turn of for most guys, they want to be loved, desired, respected, etc but need is a bummer.....
2007-11-27 00:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best thing you can do in this case is try to figure out why you have trust and/or abandonment issues... because it seems you may have one or the other, or both.
i have heavy trust issues which interfered with my relationships for years, until i tried therapy and learned how to cope.
you might want to do a Yahoo search on COPING WITH TRUST ISSUES or COPING WITH ABANDONMENT issues for more information.
if you can learn to stop giving your boyfriend the message "i love you, now go away!", things might be easier.
take care of YOU first... hugs
2007-11-27 00:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just trust him. Guess you're not sure and you're probably feeling like you're lonely, maybe that why you want him back. But thats for you to decide whether you really want to be with him or is it just to combat loneliness. Guess if you're really keen and want him back, check out the "SAFEST PLACE TO HIDE" by Nick Carter. My girl dedicated it to me and it made my life :D
2007-11-27 00:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by Wee... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be alone for a little while and if he really wants to be with you then he will come back to you no matter what......just dont ignore him or bother him this time........
2007-11-27 00:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by NOTHING 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good song to show him?!
How bout you show him yourself!!!!
You must be real with yourself 1st.
You must forgive yourself
Then the light will shine, whatever will be will be!
2007-11-27 00:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by The King 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋