What do men really think of overweight women? men only please?

Question

I want to know honestly what men think of women who are a little over weight. I am overweight by about 20 kilos (44 pounds). I think i am pretty and most of the time feel good about myself. Im just wondering what men think. I am 26 so answers from guys aged 20 to 40 would most be appreciated.

I am 5 ft 6 and have dd cup breasts.

Answer 1

My boyfriend and his guy roommate say this: guys don't consider them as attractive as slim ones, or as sexually alluring. They always fear that the girl will get even BIGGER as she gets older, so they don't want to invest alot of time on the relationship. My brother says he'll sleep with'em, but not want to be seen much with them. But that backfired on him because the cute blonde chubby girl he slept with, got PREGNANT, and he got stuck paying child support! And as a slim girl, I must tell you, that I've been picked by guys over heavy girls that were cuter than me, smarter, made more money than me, and had tons more personality than me...and when I asked why, the guys answered that a slim body trumps all of this --and it really shocked and disappointed me, because I can't believe how shallow guys are. It pissed me off. Because some of these girls were my friends and I feel they had alot to offer. Also, I watched a tv documentary that said that the hourglass-type figure is one of the things that really attracts men, and that the human male eye is trained to spot that hourglass shape at 350 yards, since time immemorial. Maybe a a slim body makes them feel more manly. But a slim body reflects "symmetry", which is a results from good health. And, in nature, a healthy woman's body better assures the survival of offspring. Just try separating your carbs and proteins. Eat each of those with veggies or salads, but never carbs and proteins in the same meal. Limiting carbs will limit the pounds staying on. When you eat carbs you must work them off physically as soon as possible.
My boyfriend just said this: "Men are VISUAL; they get turned-on VISUALLY; women are AUDITORY and get turned on emotionally through what guys SAY to them". So...be careful when guys are RAPPING to you; women must SCREEN their possible mates, to choose a suitable provider. Cuz, as we all know, alot of guys SAY what they think will BRING'em what they WANT, ha! Personally, that's why I never slept with guys till I really got to know'em; this also gave them time to care about me. Then after we slep together, they'd respect me enough not to "kiss & tell".

Answer 2

I can not say about every man, but it can be reasoned that the more "in shape" a guy it is less likely that he'd be attracted to a woman who is overweight.

People talk about personality being most important. I agree. The problem with that is personality is revealed only after you've spent some amount of time with a person. To do that you'd want an opportunity to get closer to the other person. And this in turn is unlikely if the person is not visually attracted (unless you are stuck in an elevator).

I'm 31 and now I know that looking beyond the initial appearances is necessary and you would miss out if you don't. But still visual attraction reigns supreme and in all honesty I would not accost somebody who is 44 lbs overweight.

Answer 3

I was always thick growing up as a kid. When I became an adult I had gotten very overweight. Being severely obese I was practically invisible to most men especially attractive ones. I rarely was asked on dates although I was always told by family, girl friends and guy friends that I had a pretty face and great personality. People told me I needed to be more outspoken and outgoing to get attention but I was very timid and introverted. I was very unhealthy and miserable so I decided to lose weight and I lost 100 pounds and got down to a size 4-6. After losing the weight, I felt like I was in a different world. Men who I knew would never give me the time of day when I was 100 pounds heavier began actually asking me out on dates; pretty boys, college athletes. It was crazy. I would be sent flowers, gifts. All these things never happened to me when I was overweight. I'm not a guy, but as sad as it is, I think most most men are attracted to looks and will consider settling down quicker when you have the slim body. Very few look at personality first.

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Answer 5

Depends how she carries it and where she carries it. While they are kinda rare, there are girls out there in the 170-180 pound range who are well put together and flat out hot. If she works out too is also a factor. Big boned is one thing but if everything is fairly tight, that's cool, but if there's flab and sh*t is jiggling everywhere, then no, that's not a good situation.

Post a picture and we'd have a much better idea.

Answer 6

it all depends on the individual, their personality, how they dress, etc. there are many factors. I only date athletes, some have 6 packs others are quite a ways from that. but as long as there is an effort to be fit and healthy to me that's all that matters. I just turned 39, my current gf just turned 28 she's 5'5 about 120. my ex was 34 she was 5'4 about 170. things where going good until she changed her mind after becoming an aunt and decided she did want to have kids.

Answer 7

I am not at all attracted to overweight women. Not just physically but some (not all) seem to have this pushiness about them.

Answer 8

i am 28, and i think overweight is gross.
its a sign of what i predict will become a downward spiral after marriage.

it also shows that a person might not take care of themselves...and some parts of a female are smelly, if you dont care what you look like, maybe yer stinky too.


Honestly