SHOULD I CALL iT QUITS? girlfriend issues?

Question

OK SO MY GF WENT TO A PARTY ON SATURDAY AND TOLD ME SHOULD WOULD BE GOOD. SO I BELIEVED HER AND THEN TODAY I WAS IN CLASS AND MY FRIEND TELLS ME SHE SAW MY GF DANCING WITH SOME DUDE. SO I ASK HER BAOUT IT AFTER THAT PERIOD AND SHE SAID NO I DIDNT DANCE WITH NE GUYS. THEN TODAY AFTER SKOOL. I ASKED HER AGAIN CUZ I THOUGH SHE WAS LYING TO ME AND IT TURNS OUT SHE WAS.

I CALLED UP THE DUDE AND I CALLED HIM OUT BUT HE BITCHED OUT. I WANNA BETA HIM UP.

WHATSHOULD I DO. SHOULD I BREAK UP WITH MY GF AND WHOOP HIS *** OR WHAT?

ya he knew we were together too.

ive kicked it with him like twice

ya well clucky 33 can cluck on my cock

Answer 1

The lying about it is pretty lame on her part. Does she often go to parties without you? is this the first time you heard of her behaving like this?

Don't whoop his ***. Chance are it may have been just dancing and nothing meant by it *on his part*. The problem is between you and her... keep the other guy out. Chances are he may not have known she had a boyfriend and she probably didn't tell him, either.

If you feel this has ruined the trust you had in her, I would say the relationship does not have much of a chance because this could always be a wedge between the two of you. Take a look at the relationship and ask yourself if this is what you are willing to deal with: her dishonesty, friends telling you what she was doing, etc.

Answer 2

No; violence does not solve the problem... it seems that your girlfriend is the one who was wrong.. if you and your girlfriend talked and made clear what was expected of her going and she didn't follow through then she is to blame.... though just because she made a wrong decision does not mean you have to break up... it means you both need to have a serious talk ... let her know your feelings b/c of her actions... and the fact that you will have a hard gaining your trust in her again... And, this all depends on how many times this has happened.. if many then you will need to figure if she is the one for you or not... also, the other guy probably did not know she was involved.. and/or the terms your girlfriend agreed to in going to the party "that she would not dance with anyone....

Answer 3

This question is old but I want to answer. You divorced your ex wife because she didn't work? Excuse me but she had a child with you, she was a mother. And as a woman that's the most important job she'll ever have. I will ALWAYS choose my child over a career of super modeling or anything appealing to me! And that says something! If a man marries me and gets me pregnant, I pop out a child 9 months later and he expects me to work I will GLADLY divorce him. Who cooked? Since you're so stingy, did you make your own food and demand to make your own? Or did your ex wife do it..? And if so, why? Why did the woman have to cook? Stop denying gender roles. I'm all for woman working and being a career woman while having a kid and I have no doubt in my mind she can do it just as I'm okay with the husband being the house husband. Just don't be a hypocrite..(ex she cooks and cleans for you but is expected to pay for her own stuff..) get real dude.

Answer 4

Unless you want to work through the real issues, just call it quits.

First of all your issue is with your girlfriend, an issue of trust and honesty, which are the foundations in any relationship, not this other dude...leave him out of it and stick to the issue at hand.

From what you said above it sounds like your girlfriend didn't feel comfortable with telling you the truth for whatever her reasons are.

Frankly, from what what you have stated above, you sound too controlling. To have to promise you that she will "be good"? You are her boyfriend, not her father and to say something like that would be demeaning and likely made her angry and dancing with the guy was subtle way to get back at you and establish she is your equal.

Calling the other guy out just because he danced (it isn't like they were making out) with your girlfriend at a party makes you sound very insecure in your relationship with her and at the high school level is more likely for him to want to pursue her even if he really wasn't interested in her just to try to establish who the alpha dog.

Answer 5

I think you are being WAY too controlling and over protective. It was wrong of her to lie to you about it... but dancing is NOT a big deal at all. I think she should be allowed to have a dance with another guy without you flipping out on her. Maybe don't be such a controlling boyfriend and she wont be so tempted to go dance with other guys in the first place!

Answer 6

I am sorry to say this but, you have jealousy. Very common in males. Relax dude, it was a dance. Chill and talk it out, tell the girl how you feel and that if she keeps doing that you two will cut. Find out more then if the thing gets serious, I am on your side! Good-luck!

Answer 7

I think your girlfriend can be forgiven for dancing with another guy becuase it sounds like there weren't any feelings involved, she was just having fun. the bad part is that she lied to you about it. You should ask her why she lied in the first place. If she has a good answer then she could be forgiven. if not you should rethink the relationship.

Answer 8

OMG all she did was dance with some guy get over it! It's not a big deal and it didn't mean anything to her! She doesn't wanna tell u cuz she knows u will freak out

Answer 9

Bro' cboo:

Dude! Control your ANGER!
You are an EXTREMELY
Jeolous little boy who could
probably bench press ME!
Take some Martial Arts
to CONTROL yourself!
That's what helps me.

Be kewl! You seem to have
Issues & a History of VIOLENCE!

Some day you will wake up in PRISON
with "RUFUS" b*itch slappin ya!

Getta check-up~
from the Neck UP!

Peace~
OUT!

Answer 10

If you have to ask, you already know. There is no reason to knock a guy around cause he danced with your girl. She could have said no when he ask to dance with her. Jeeez! If you have a gal who goes to parties without you, find another girl who wants to take you along when she goes to parties.