Can my mom stop me from moving out??

Question

Okay lets start with the facts.
I am 17, I will be 18 Jan. 14
My mom takes $400 out of every pay check, and then some extra cash here and there.
I babysit my brother and sister and get absolutely nothing for it.
She can't even buy me a bar of soap.
She don't buy me anything.
She don't clean the house, and she don't take care of my brother and sister. I do.
She basically just told me that my job means nothing to her and when she wants to go out she's going to do it and I will just have to call off.
I have no money saved up.
I have no life.
I have nothing because of her.
I want to move in with my memmy (gram), who is not blood, she's just raised me since I was born basically.

Can my mom come after me if I move out now?? Will I get in trouble, and have to go back with her?

I am not in school anymore. My mom gets HUD and Food Stamps and everything, and since I am no longer in school they consider me to be an Emancipated Adult, so I don't know if that means anything. Like I am allowed to move out without the consent of her?

My mom told me that I was not allowed to leave my house unless it was to go to work, and I was not allowed to talk to anyone or she and I quote "Will beat the living **** out of you and then call the cops and have them take you the hell away". I am almost an adult, I have always been a good kid, I'm tired of her ruining my life, she has more of a life then I do and she is 34 years old. I'm only 17 and I've never been to prom or anything. I want to save up some money before I hit 18, and that will never happen with her around.

Answer 1

Technically she can until you are 18 but considering it is so close she more then likely won't and if she involved the authorities (children services or the like) you'd be 18 by the time they got the ball rolling to force you back home. In some states you can't even be reported as a runaway when you're so close to 18 because they don't want to waste money and resources to send you home for a short time.
Sounds like mom needs to learn she had the kids and not you. It's her responsibility not yours.
I'm sure some will think you're an ungrateful child because mom has given you a home but I'm a mom and I don't buy that. I chose to have my children they didn't choose me. I expect them to respect and appreciate what I do for them but I don't consider it a debt owed to me!
You say you have nothing but if she's taking $400 a pay so you have a job and thats more then a lot of kids your age and even some adults. Offer 'memmy' some rent for you to live with her. It sounds like you're buying all of your own necessities now anyways. Help out around her house and keep working!
Best of luck!

Answer 2

Sorry to be harsh, but she doesnt sound liek a very good mother based on what u have said!
Its clear that she isnt showing any interest in u as her daughter and she doesnt show u any love and affection which is what u should experience from ur mother no matter what age u are....

If i were u, id definately be packing my bags and finding my ride to another place where id feel safe and loved by people who care! I dont think its a healthy relationship u have with ur mum and if u cant get thru her by talking to her deeply then i think u should leave and show her that u will not suffer like this anymore!

IF she ever finds u and does anything physical then u can call the cops because that is physical abuse and u are old enough to make ur own decisions dor urself!

Answer 3

Can't you just wait it out for another 2 months? I know it's hard, but if you move out now..you'll be in a worse position and you might make things hard on your grandma. You can be emancipated and I'm not sure how long that takes, but I'm sure it takes a lot longer then you think. She can stop you from moving out, because you are still a minor..legally she has that right until you turn 18. She could potentially report you as a run away if you decide to leave before then. Would she be the kind to do that if you do decide to move out?

Answer 4

You are old enough to make up your own mind now. If you are telling the truth to us, then you have every reason to leave.
When she is not around, pack up your stuff and go to your Grandma's. If your mother comes after you tell her that if she tries to take you back with her, you will call child services and tell them how she is treating her other kids.

The sad thing about this situation, is the other two children.
How will she treat them after your gone. Will she neglect them. Try and keep an eye on them and give them your phone number so that they can keep in touch with you.

Tell them that whatever happens at home, if they get fearful or scared, or left alone, call you. If anything like that happens call Child Services and report your mother.

Start to save your money when you do move out, and do something with your life. Don't let a miserable childhood hold you down, be determined to make something of your life.

Don't forget, keep you eye on your brother and sister, if and when you move out.

Answer 5

Honey if you are an emancipated adult then you can leave when you want to. She cannot stop you from leaving. She also cannot take your money. If she tries to hurt you call the cops. Do not call off work. Since you have a place to go I would go there. Do you have your own bank account? If you don't you need to get one and put your money there so she cannot take it. Why were you emancipated? That means that you are responsible for yourself and and are under no parental control. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

If you are emancipated, then feel free to leave when you'd like. There's really nothing she can do to stop you. Also-because you are so close to your 18th birthday, even if she DID file a runaway report on you the police wouldn't actively pursue it.

You would basically have to either get arrested for an unrelated reason or walk up to a cop and say "I'm reported as a runaway and you should take me in now" before they would look twice at you.

Sorry your situation is so rough. Good luck to you in the future!

Answer 7

personally, I think you need to have a HUGE discussion with your mother to try and talk some sense into her. If she doesn't listen I don't think she can stop you from doing what you want at your age. And there's always emancipation. I also think that if you do decide to move out you should make sure that she is taking good care of your other siblings and if she doesn't you need to take the necessary action (like calling social services).

Answer 8

It sounds to me like your mother is not stable. I think it would be in your best interest to move in with gram. If she basically raised you then that means your mother could not. If she's taking money from her 17 year old daughter then that's sad. You need that money and you need to learn to save and not have your mom mooching off of you. I'd move out FAST! If she comes after you all you need is to let them know that she takes your money and I'm sure the lady you are going to move in with will vouge for you that she basically raised you. Good luck....let us know if you move!

Answer 9

When your eighteen she cannot stop you from doing anything. Boy, does this sound familiar. My mom was the same way. I left as soon as I turned eighteen. Just bide your time a little longer, January is almost here honey. Get ready to move. Best Wishes to you.

Answer 10

Talk to a D.S.S. worker ,they will probably help you, but get back in school get an education hon.Do NOT depend on ANY knight in shining armor to rescue you.YOU learn to stand on your OWN 2 FEET FIRST, then you can dazzle the prince of your choice by looking like a woman who can handle responsibility instead of someone needy and helpless needing rescued.