Men, please help! I MET THIS GUY ON-LINE AND WE CHAT via e-mail. TODAY, WE FINALLY TALKED ON THE PHONE?

Question

and it was awful. The conversation was short (about 10 minutes) and boring. Are e-mail chats were always fun and exciting, but our phone call was horrible, it was a bad chemistry. I think it is because I was nervous and possibly he was too.
WE are supposed to have our first date this Saturday.
Do you think he is completely turned off from me, because of the phone call?
Has this happened to you before? If so, how did everything turn out?

Answer 1

There’s a project due at work – an assignment to hand-in at school – got to be on time to catch the bus – deadlines, deadlines. Well, FORTUNATELY for you, this, isn’t one of those times.

You only talked once and feel nervous? Well, there’s no rush. Take this at YOUR pace. I’ve had a little bit of experience so here’s a few more tips for ya.

Rule 1 of on-line dating: Stop those chats and emails.
Yes, an e-mail will tell you that a guy can construct a full sentence, but after a couple e-mails, will it tell you if you have any chemistry or rapport or if you can handle conflicts together or if he as acne? Not likely, so after a couple e-mails, get on the phone.

Rule 2: Get on the phone
The phone is half way to a real date and it can do so many things for you. For one, 5 minutes of a phone conversation is the equivalent of 6 years of typing e-mails. Secondly, you get a feel for the person’s personality. He might have taken all night to type that 10-line e-mail, but now he’s got to stay on his toes. Thirdly, unlike a real date with someone you’ll meet for the first time, the phone helps you get rid of your nerves and get comfortable with him from your own environment. Fourth, if you hear babies in the background and a woman screaming it might not want to say “shhhhh ma…pho..is..shhhh… loosing…. Shhhh .. signal…..” CLICK!

Rule 2b: Use call block
IF you don’t want to give him your number yet, remember to use ‘call block’. In most cities, you dial *67 before dialing his number. In most cities, its free of charge.

Rule 3: Photos
Not just one, but because people look different in different pictures, get a minimum of three to four pictures from your potential date. This will allow you to average out the pictures and assemble some realistic expectations of what the person looks like before you meet.

Rule 3: Meet between 3 days and 2 weeks of talking.
Research (my research – my HUMANTARIAN research) shows that talking less than 3 days can still leave you feeling nervous. Talking for more than 2 weeks however might get you feeling emotions which is highly impractical. And in your case, you can take it easy since this is your first time.

Rule 4: Before you meet always say:
“… ummmm, so no expectations ok? If this doesn’t work out, I’m sure we’ll be friends” This is crazy-smart for so many reasons. You OR the guy might feel like you’re not THAT into him or he to you but after talking, you might feel indebted to meet. When you express that there are no expectations, it lets the other person feel like there’s a way out. Even if you both had amazing sparks on the phone, you never know what will happen when you meet. If either of you change your minds, then you can feel a little better about putting the ‘friend vibe’ out there.

Rule 5: if you have a bad date, go back to Rule 1.

I hope this helps.

Answer 2

I would give it another chance. I don't know about other guys but I know I get nervous when I talk to a girl I like for the first time. My suggestion would be to chat online less and try talking to him on the phone more, preferably before your first date. That way you two can break the ice and see if there's chemistry there or not.

Answer 3

If he isn't responding then stop chasing him. Let him come too you. If you feel like you want to give him one more chance to respond then send him one last email and see if he responds if not then move one Becareful about meeting ppl off the internet or anywhere. If or When you and him meet for the first couple of times make sure its a public place .. this way you can feel him out and see what kind of person he is ..

Answer 4

just be cool and see how the date goes. Who knows it may have just been nerves that ruined the phone call. I know that when i talked to my boyfriend for the first time it was , well, not that great, but as time went on and we were less scared it got better too. (for both of us it was the first time we had ever talked to someone we met online. if that change anything)

Answer 5

people always sound better on the internet because you can read into things and make this person be whoever you want.
when you talked on the phone you met the real him and obviously you are not into him.
i suggest breaking the date.
but if you go on the date and there still is bad chemistry you should end it with him.

hope i helped!

Answer 6

if you get on well then dont worry --- thats what saturday is about ---- go out see how you get on and take it from there --- i do hope its only coffee/tea on saturday --- its a great ice breaker and if things go well you can keep talking and maybe have a meal as well ---- have fun

Answer 7

you shouldn't be some slut,not saying you are,and go out and get some guy from the internet because you don't know who he is and where he is from,i'd say don't do it.you never know.