i think i want to have a baby in a couple of years... but i'm scared.. do you have any advice?

Question

my IUD expires October '10. my husband, myself, and many family members think that i may have a difficult time getting pregnant b/c of my past period woes (i've gone up to a year and a half without a period, for no reason what-so-ever, my GYN coudn't even figure out why it went AWOL). now i'm in the same situation, even though i have my IUD this is still all too familiar territory for me, and does not help ease my fertility concerns. i have been mulling over the decision in my head to not get my dental hygiene degree, get a medical coding and billing degree (which is half the time in school) and be a stay at home mom and have my first baby at 27 or 28. not many people i know would like to help me decide this because they all had their hopes on me being a dentist, then had to accept that i just wanted to be a hygenist. now this. i don't know what would be best for me, i'm only 25. i don't want to discuss it with hubby (of 3 years) just yet. i need to think. thoughts or advice?

ps - i have been mastering the art of having a puppy to prepare myself, and i'm doing quite well! and a lot of people say puppies are a lot like babies... i'm trying to prepare in every way possible to make sure this is what i want. and i'm starting to think it is... not right now, but in a few years.

when i say a puppy is like a baby, i mean it in the sense that a puppy is the closest you can get to having a baby without actually having a baby, you know? it's the closests pet-wise. and it's the best i can do right now to prepare myself.

Answer 1

I think you're doing everything right.

Just make sure you get a degree in something you like doing. Hygienists are in demand and you can work part time if you like.

Planning on taking care of a child 24/7 and holding a part time home-based job is really tough.

Just make sure you make the decision based on YOUR wants, and not what would work if and when you become a mother. You may be right, and have problems ttc, and you find yourself with a job you hate on top of that. Not good.

Take care of yourself, and the children will be just fine. They need a happy mom.

TX Mom

Answer 2

firstly a baby is nothing like a puppy - if you mess up a puppy you can have it euthanized.. or at least its lifespan is only 18 years... if you mess up a kid - in 18 years its commiting crimes.

best thing for a kid is a stay at home parent.. yes!!!
best thing for you to do is SAVE MONEY NOW - seriously - cut the cable.. dont get "coffee to go" eat lots of soup (cheap meals) save up to buy a house.. have savings in the bank...

in the long run a degree is nice but if your hubby is ok finanacially and you can make the budget cuts your kid will be better off than a kid who has 2 parents working and can buy whatever.. having the parent is MORE important than having the stuff....