A low self esteem?

Question

The Bible says to love your neighbor as yourself, what are good godly ways to love and take care of yourself?

What is the cure for a low self esteem? What are good and godly ways to be comfortable with yourself and love who you are?

I have been struggling with depression and am getting help. Please no sarcastic answers thank you and God bless you:)

Answer 1

First is to love. Love is why the Lord made you and took your place, love is why you are free. Second is service and fellowship, get involved in your church and community and your self-esteem will grow and your depression will fall away, as you begin to lead others to the Lord through your deeds. I pray the Lord's prayer when I am discouraged and that helps me to remember that I must serve in any way I can. Bless you and remember...faith, hope and love, but the greatest of these is Love.
A Youth Pastor

Answer 2

Focus on positive things, be thankful (research shows that being thankful for things, people, etc. helps a person focus on positive things), Meditate on your accomplishments (you do have them), remember your are a valuable, and unique person. Find some of your favorite scripture and keep them in mind. Spend some time exercising (biking, swimming, etc... something like that). Spend time with people that build you up. Don't give up, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Set Goal for your self (be realistic, not too high). Everything takes time (baby steps), Every journey starts with one step. From time to time things will bring you down (it happens to the best of us, take heart your not alone). Do things for others unexpectedly and spontaneously (it does not have to be big, it is the motivation that counts.) It is okay to cry (It is needed sometimes). There is always hope ever if you cannot see it. Try to practice bible principle in your life and relationship, (Love, respect, trust, and communication). Talk to someone you can really trust about your depression. (a parent, sibling, friend, teacher, etc.)

If your depression is severe, seek a doctor, medication may help. There are also cognitive therapies to help people cope with anxieties, fears, depression. (These focus on identifying the underlying thought processes and help train you to break the cycle) Again consult a doctor or therapists for the cognitive therapies, some you can do yourself, others you'll need help with.

Don't underestimate prayer. (But pray from your heart, don't be afraid you pour your heart out to God, or ask question, he will listen) Take time to focus of the qualities that you admire about God or his son Christ. Look at the creation around you, (sunsets, butterfies, flowers, animals, stars, etc) Life has many sensations we can explore (taste, hear, smell, touch, see). Find something you are passionate about and do it.(photography, writing poetry or shortstories, painting or drawing)

I hope this gives you some ideas, and helps you cope with your depression and trials. Remember YOU ARE LOVED.

Answer 3

You don't mention what is causing this low self esteem and depression. Is it that you are unhappy about your looks?, have you been verbally abused in the past?, violated in some way?. Most depression stems from past feelings or hurts that have not been addressed. The depression then begans to spill out because that feeling or hurt is still 'depressed' in your emotions and you must get rid of it by opening up and talking to a counselor, church pastor, or that very same person that has hurt you. At times it may be an incident in your life that you haven't fully forgotten, forgiven or accepted. These type of trauma's can cause depressed feelings and again you must get rid of the emotion inside in order to move forward in life. There is not another child like you, God created you just like you are, God knows exactly how you feel and if you are feeling down, he grieves because thats not how he created you to be. You are to have joy, he created you for him, not so others can look at your outer beauty, he looks at the inward man for beauty is vanity, it's here for a while then it's gone. I was a skinny ugly little girl, suffered a lot of name calling and embarrassment. I felt no one wanted to be my friend and I would isolate myself. I became depressed at a very young age and carried it with me for a long time, at age 16 I became pregnant (had sex because I needed the feeling of belonging) the guy dumped me, which compounded the depression. I had my child and raised him with the help of my parents. I continued being a loner, fearing that people would say things to me that would hurt, or being taken advantage of like I felt this guy had. At age 19, I began to gain a little weight and my body had developed into a woman's I began applying makeup and found that I wasn't ugly after all. I began to go out to club's and dance hall's and boy was I hot(or so I thought I was). Meeting guy's was fun but they were only after one thing. I made myself as beautiful as possible, dyed my hair, wore the best of clothes and yet still finding myself depressed and lonely. I would come home from my partying alone, wondering what is wrong with me? I am pretty, and I have a nice figure? which caused more depression, until I met a man called Jesus. He lifted my burdens by showing me what all my hurts and dissappointments were. He set me free. I had to soul search all the way back to my childhood when I was called names and had accepted myself as ugly and skinny. I'll tell you that now I am much older and I am still attractive but that beauty, oh all is vanity, because God still loves me and accepts me just like I am, and it's not beauty he wants, he want's our heart. So surrender those feelings to God and get on with your life, it is too precious for a young lady to waste her time dwelling on things so unimportant when you can serve the lord with all your being and be healed by the hand of the master. God Bless You Get some help, don't carry those feelings like I did.

Answer 4

I was like you when everything in my life seems to be falling apart but thankfully, God has been good and faithful to me. It is when I at my lowest point in my life that He answered me through prayer. I understand that He is the source of Love and by receiviing His Love, I too have Love in which I love myself and by loving myself I'm able to love my neighbour. When I started loving myself more and giving love to others, I regain my self esteem and confident.

What I'm trying to say is you need to love yourself first when you receive God's love then only can you love others.

You were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love. The entire law is summed up in a single command: "Love your neighbor as yourself." Galatians 5:13,14

Answer 5

I think you have to accept God's testimony of who you are and what you are worth to Him.
He paid the highest price He could to redeem you for Himself.
God is no fool. If He paid such a high price for you, it is because you are worth it.
If there seems to be an overwhelming sense of gloom and unworthiness that comes over you, you may be dealing with something more than doubts - you may be oppressed by a demon spirit. In that case you need to call upon the Lord Jesus Christ to deliver you from this.

For more teaching along these lines from a great man of God who suffered from depression in his early Christian life I recommend the teachings of Derek Prince - please look through his free online sermons (archived radio programs) as well as books and recordings in his bookstore.
Peace to you!

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Answer 6

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Answer 7

Eat right, sleep enough, work hard, avoid things which pollute your body like smoke and drugs. But the point about loving others as yourself means to treat them as you would if you were in that position.

As for your second topic, I'd go with the quote from Philippians, "Whatsoever things are lovely.......think on these things." Think about the things you like about yourself, not the things you don't like. And if you take the beginning of your first quote, "Love God with all thy heart, and thy neighbor as thyself," if you concentrate on loving God, you won't have time to not love yourself.

Answer 8

The cure for low self-esteem is to realize you are wonderfully made by an awesome God.

Answer 9

In my opinion, the best cure for a low self-esteem is doing things for others. Feed the hungry, clothe the poor, work for your favorite charity. Once the attention is off yourself and onto others, you will feel much better about yourself.

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Answer 10

I'm not religious man. One not think down on yourself to much. If you do that its just going to make it worse. To get out do things walk in a park trail run whatever makes you happy do it you'll feel better. Get more social this helps alot. so That my advice for you. Some things you have to do yourself. Not count on others or religion.Oh and listen to music.(no emo stuff.)