My boyfriend is unfaithful to me. I must allow it, not to be alone?

Question

I`m very ugly, just look at me.


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Answer 1

about time, a bird who knows her place, I hope you submit to what he wants? or does he punish you?

Answer 2

If you are looking for a compliment, you won't get one from me. I once felt like what you describe. I felt ugly, like no man would want me. I still have flashes of that. But, life has taught me that men are as changeable as the weather. Kind of like women, huh? The point is, depending on what you want, men won't fulfill dreams. If you feel ugly, you present yourself as ugly. After surgery, I no longer have breasts. Men don't seem to be able to stand women without breasts. I have gotten to the point where I wish that I could find a man whom breasts did not matter. But, so far, I haven't found a man who didn't have to have breasts on a woman. That doesn't mean that there isn't one. I just haven't found him yet. It gets to me sometimes, & I think that men are as cheap as the gum I bought a few days ago, nothing important means anything to them. BUT, I KNOW THAT IF I SETTLE FOR WHAT I CAN GET AT THE TIME, I WILL NEVER GET WHAT I WANT! I want a man who can look past the imperfections to the whole person. I would rather be alone than settle for a man who can satisfy a few urges at the time. You must respect yourself! If you don't do that, you can never expect a man to do it for you. If you are more afraid of being alone than anything else, I pity you. Being alone is not that bad. Yeah, you have times when you wish it wasn't that way. But, when I go to sleep at night, I know that if all I wanted was a piece of a--, I could get it with no effort. The effort comes from being with someone who will respect me. That is much harder. Being unfaithful is easy. Men have been proving that for more years than I want to think about. Women have too. You aren't ugly. Maybe the man in your life has made you feel that way. The answer is to find a man who will make you feel differently. I just hope that you will find a man who will make you feel as valuable as you are. If not, you comdemn yourself to a life of feeling cheap. No one is worth that. If you can find someone who will make you feel as human & valuable as you are, you are very blessed. Good Luck & Blessings

Answer 3

What a load of cr--! You look just fine. So dump that guy's sorry ***. You deserve better than that.

Not that I think you'd end up alone. You won't. But even if you did, there's a lot of positive stuff you could still do. Who needs an unfaithful jerk? Nobody!

Answer 4

You're not ugly, you're at least average looking. Try to cultivate some self-esteem. You don't have to tolerate an unfaithful boyfriend. Trust me, you don't have to be a perfect 10 to find a new man.

Answer 5

How can you say such things, you don't need a boyfriend like that he is under minding you. Let me tell you that you certainly are not ugly, he is just telling you this because he has a unhealthy hold over you and doesn't want anyone else to have you. Get rid of him, and you will be better off believe me you will find someone who will deserve to have your love.

Answer 6

first nobody is too ugly. there always thing you can do to fix yourself and feel better about yourself. you need to be comfortable with how you look. be happy.

And Secondly LEAVE YOUR BOYFRIEND, he is just using you. he probably makes you feel bas about yourself and how you look so you won't leave him. he is expecting you to always be there. You are not a carpet. YOU are a woman. be proud. you are worth more that how he is treating you. all women are.

you shouldn't be afraid to be alone. sometimes it can be great. you have more space and you don't have to tell anyone what you are going to do.

either way it is better to be alone than to be with bad company, people.

you should really leave him and take time to make yourself feel better about how you look. then someone who deserves you will come. even though you might not like to hear this it is true: "good things come for those who wait"

it happened to me

Answer 7

Hey, If that is ur real photo, you are VERY attractive,
If u think ur ugly, then I am a goat :-)
You have a very low self esteem, does your boy friend make
you feel ugly and worthless? and tell you, you may not be able
to find someone else? that you should be grateful he is with you?
This says more about your boyfriend's insecurity than anything
about you. You need to move on.
You could afford to lose a boyfriend, but you can't afford to lose your self respect.

Answer 8

You don't look ugly in your pic. Also personlity is more important than looks. You can find someone better who will respect you. I remember my friend saying to me he would rather be alone, than unhappy with a with the wrong person and what he said made a lot of sense to me. If you know what I mean.

Answer 9

You're not ugly. This relationship is unhealthy for you, ditch him. It sounds like you may have some self-esteem and codependency issues. Take some time for yourself and seek counseling before starting any new relationships. No one deserves to be cheated on.

Answer 10

1. You aren't ugly at all!! (judging by your little picture)
2. Even if you were ugly, even ugly people need somebody to love!
3. There is someone out there who is going to love you for you and not for your appearance. Trust me, i do NOT love my boyfriend for his appearance. He is cute, but not very attractive. I love him for his personality!
4. No one deserves to be cheated on... NO ONE!

Answer 11

my daughter has gone through and still does at times,this sort of thing,she dosent have any real self confidence and therefore calls herself ugly and fat,when in fact she is very pretty and slim,i tell her to take a good look at her freinds,and neighbours,and to ask herself,would she rather be them or herself,get rid of this peabrain your with shake yourself down and say allowed that tomorrow is going to be a new day in your life and get out and enjoy yourself,life is for living,and your gonna live it.