Talking and intelligence. Why do they scare off women?

Answer 1

Like most things in this world - it's all a matter of finding a balance...

Talking non-stop (or ONLY about yourself) makes you look like a selfish (and perhaps ego-maniacal) prick - and flaunting your intelligence to the point that you deliberately make others feel stupid is just cruel!

Women tend to (but not ALWAYS) value Intelligence and Sensetivity in men - even over looks and money. But you know what they say about "too much of a good thing" ;);););)

Answer 2

Repetitive, but "they don't" sums it up. Talking about awkward subjects like: most awkward foods you've eaten and how you felt about them, your sock collection, let's compare weight and body fat, etc... will scare us off. Also talking all about you is a good indicator that you will not have the time to fit us into your busy schedule of you into your daily schedule. Not talking per se, but conversation will not scare us off. Conversation implies both people are involved and are contributing.

Intelligence is a turn-on, but let's face it. If you are so intelligent and cannot hold a conversation? Perhaps you are not that intelligent where it matters. If you are intelligent, you can make us laugh, you can carry the conversation, and it won't be all about you (your job of molecular science in terms we can't begin to comprehend as you're using scientific terms, your car and the reasons why it'll be more important than your girlfriend, your parents, and your job combined, etc...)

Answer 3

I don't think that talking and intelligence scare off women. Giving off the impression that you are enamoured with yourself and talking down to women might be the qualities they abhor.Those can be a bore and who wants to associate with a bore? So take stock of yourself while you are still young and not fully set in your ways. You have a lot of time to improve.

Answer 4

Maybe their dumb as dirt. If talking and intelligence scares off some women, consider it a blessing. The right woman will value and enjoy talking and intelligence.

Answer 5

You're not approaching the right girls. For a girl to want to carry on an intelligent conversation, they need to be educated! So most likely, you may just be going up to the "hot" ones because they are good looking.

Maybe try going to talk to girls that are actually normal! And once you get over this hump of "only attractive girls" you will realize that the normal women are far more attractive than those who only spend their time going to the tanning salon and to the mall--believe me! It's the exact opposite for me (meaning i find intellegent guys far more attractive than guys who spend too much time going to the gym and looking at themselves in the mirror).

Answer 6

Well I don't know the women you are dating but that is what I am looking for when I go out on a date with a fella. Intelligence and good conversation. Keep trying!!

Answer 7

They don't as long as you are talking about interesting subjects and are not demeaning in your speaking to her. It is all in the subject and delivery of the topic that will make or break it for the woman. You need to be able to gauge when the subject that you are on has gone from interesting to boring and know when to change subjects. If she asks questions about the subject then do not answer her with the attitude that everyone should know the answer. Find a way to answer that keeps things interesting. You will get farther with a woman that way.

Answer 8

Maybe its what you are saying. Because I dont see why intelligence would scare a woman off especially since that is what we are looking for.

Answer 9

They don't.They turn some of us on.Who wants a boring bump on a log to spend their life with? I've been looking for a man who can talk & be intelligent,but no such luck yet.They all seem only to say enough to lay you then they are gone.I would die for a MAN that CAN carry on a conversation about something other than SEX!

Answer 10

Sometimes they scare off women because certain people cant measure up to that intelligence.