I feel like such a fat ugly loser who is desperate. Although im actually not fat and guys stare at me all the time, and not because im ugly im actually pretty, but guys don't ask me out. Only people i don;t want to go out with. Whats wrong with me? im 17 and i never had a bf. how much longer do i have to wait. i tried taking the initiative and pursuing guys but that failed miserably. Am i going to be single forever. Or am i doomed to the guys i hate and don't like?
2007-11-26 13:31:14 · 73 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe it's because you're shallow.
2007-11-26 13:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by jessica4476 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I am in about the same boat, I am 16, soon to be 17, and have never had a girlfriend. I have been through that trainwreck of trying to ask a girl I have been intrested in out, but I never have any luck. I don't think I am really unattractive (fat, ugly) either, and I have friends that are girls, just that none ever want to go any farther than that.
I think though, that you, and I as well, will eventually find the right one. I mean once you get into college, you will make so many friends, it just seems next to impossible not to find someone, as long as you take at least a little initiative. Then of course past there, you will be in a job will you meet co-workers. I don't think being alone forever is something to worry about too much, but there are probably more ppl than you think that are in the same boat.
But keep trying, and don't get discouraged, you will find the right guy eventually. Just be yourself.
Don't get a job Hooters as the guy below me said. Get a man that likes you for you, not for your body.
2007-11-26 13:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a smart, introspective person. People that aren't flashy or promiscuous aren't going to be really popular with the popular guys. Also, you may seem needy or desperate when you are pursuing guys. Have confidence and try smiling and making eye contact with the guy you like... let him show some interest first (don't chase him).
If you are asking a serious question here, I can guarantee you that you are going to be fine. Nice, intelligent people tend to meet and marry well. It just takes patience.
I know several friends who were 19-30 years old without ever hitting it off with anyone but losers and then they found the perfect person.
2007-11-26 13:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by gobifish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just maybe you may want to try one of those boys that you don't want to go out with. You may find that you can actually have a good time. I was married for 34 years when my ex left me. I got on Yahoo Personals and said that I was looking for a smiling lady. Guess what! I found one. We started talking on line and one of the first things she told me was that I was TOO OLD. Well we kept talking on the phone several months and if the truth be known we actually fell in love with each other before we saw each other. I was one of "those" guys she didn't want to go out with. We have now been married over 2 years and if anything we love each other more each day. Don't get discouraged, sometimes the present is much prettier than the wrapping.
t wa
2007-11-26 13:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jake S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AH the joy of being a teenager. You are still so very young and have so much to learn and to experience.
Believe it or not teenage boys are just as afraid as teenage girls to fail at pursuing a girl they like. It takes time to be brave enough to talk to a girl and even more time to get the courage to ask a girl out.
All you can do is talk to people yourself how scary tat might sound to you. When guys see how fun and outgoing you are you'd be surprised how fast they will come over to talk to you.
If you like a guy let him know because what might seem obvious to you isn't always obvious for a guy, they aren't mind readers!
Good luck and be patient.... just make sure you're ready when love comes knocking at your door!
2007-11-26 13:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tantalizing Dutch Delilah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it...you are still very young. Besides, when you are young, guys kinda stink anyway - they are really immature and no relationship that starts when you are 17 is going last anyway or become anything worth getting excited about. Bit of advise, you always find someone when you are not looking for it - at the least expected moment. So chill - your time will come. And don't rush because the more guys you meet and get close to, the more you start to realize THEY ARE ALL NUTS. take your time....
2007-11-26 13:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by bksg22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't settle for someone you really don't care about and please don't go shopping on the web!!!!!!! I can tell you are anxious and upset but just take it slow. If you hurry it, you will not like the results. I was an old aged guy at 21 when I found my dream lady and 'til that point I felt pretty worn out and depressed trying to find "Ms. Perfect". We have been together almost 30 years now and have 6 kids and one grandchild.
2007-11-26 13:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by charlie m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it might have been the way and how hard you pursued them...... Might want to try another way.....
Now if you are just outright smoking hot, guys might feel it is pointless to ask you out because thier thought process might be tht because you are so beauitful you have to have many guys after you......and it would be a waste of time because you will reject them...
One suggeston might be to get a job at hooters or a place where you are around many diffrent types of guys and trust me that will dramaticaly increase your chance's and the attention will help your self confidence..... I am a manager for a hooters in Georgia.... and I see it happen everyday....
Keep the faith and it will happen!
2007-11-26 13:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by 30269 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in such a hurry ... geez you are only 17! Just have fun and let it come to you. It is usually when I don't show any interest in dating that I need a wheelbarrow to carry around all the girls that are interested ... LOL. Funny how that works?? I guess when you don't care you show a quiet confidence that others can see?
Ron in H-Town
2007-11-26 13:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breath ur prince charming will come. I seriously dont think u should settle for less. Just have fun when your single. My roomate is miserble with a obessive bf. Live ur life and stop being needy, a charming and cute guy will see that and they would like someone who not calling every minute. U know just relax and go with the flow.
2007-11-26 13:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by *_- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are lonely and at 17 its really sucks. But you are still very young. You will find a guy. Just make sure you ar in places where guys do things. Also start taking up activies that guys like too. Try some church singles groups
2007-11-26 13:36:07 · answer #11 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋