I have always had strong feelings for my friend who I will call Karen secrecy. I have known Karen since high school, and I am the one who convinced her to go to college where we both attend. I broke up with my ex gf of 2 years almost 3 months ago, but it was her choice. She told me she needed time to be alone and that she didn't love me anymore, but then all of a sudden wanted me back. I found out she slept with an ex, whom she had been flirting with after we broke up, but then he turned out to be a dick. The whole time I was miserable, Karen was there for me, talking to me and helping me. I have no idea how she feels for me, but my ex is begging me back, but I have strong feelings for Karen, and I feel like it might be love. I know it is messy, but what should I do? I am the one who introduced my ex and Karen to each other, and they are not that close, but they live in the same apartment. What is the right thing to do? How can I determine how Karen feels?
2007-11-26 13:01:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, i don't want to upset my ex, and she is a little unstable so I am scared to do anything that might make her do something stupid.
2007-11-26 13:05:31 · update #1
You sure shes not a rebound chick, where you just used her as emotional airbag?
2007-11-26 13:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by wondergirl 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well maybe you should first ask her out but not like boyfriend and girlfriend, you know like go with her to a coffe and stuff like that without being bf and gf, and talk to her about how she feels dont tell her right the way you love her or tell her all your feelings , because youre going to scare her.
Just give her like indirect words about your feelings dont be direct!! just to make her catch up the idea!! because if youre direct you may loose all your friendship!! and you will loose her as afriend to so think twice before opening your mouth!!
And about your ex.. well she decided to leave you so she shouldnt matter but you should tell her after you talk to karen that you dont want her to get involved in your relation with karen that you both took different ways and that shes not in yours now!!
good luck and sorry for the spelling its cause im mexican soo !! hope it works!
2007-11-26 13:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out on a date, and go do something fun. Get to know her, without the sex, to see if she has a sense of humor, can carry on a conversation without having dead periods, if you know that this is someone that you could be stranded in a car with, in a snowstorm and not want to kill her for being stupid, than this one might be the one. Forget about the ex, she is just using you until someone new comes along. She might decide to move out to be able to date you.
2007-11-26 13:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looks like there is alot of uncertainty in this tangle you present...My gut advice is to take a step back from it all, give yourself time to look more objeectively at this situation keep busy and re-examine your feelings( and theirs) at a later time..this will give all involved to do the same...I also think if you have strong feelings toward Kanen and not sure where shes at...ask her! then youll know ...(you hope.).looks like your X is confused and could be playing with your emotions..out of and into love too quick..thats a red flag in my book....there arent many women who like being alone and if something happens to them they usually go running to an X assuming they get along...You need to work on yourself as well..no need to internalize this to feel miserable and try not to rely too much on others ( although they are being supportive)...this appears to be not your fault but more a result of mixed emotions on the part of everyone..Keep your perspective real and if it's too much to handle give them and yourself a break.
2007-11-26 13:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by kindablue99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! You shouldn't get back to a girl like your ex. it would be the biggest mistake ever. listen to me, don't. She's not honest with you at all. why waste your time? And Karen might likes you, i mean y a girl waste her time to talk to someone she doesn't like? i know cos i'm a girl. Except if she's your BFF. If she's not then she likes you. And ask her out.
2007-11-26 13:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that your ex dumped you. She will do it again and it seems she is quite fickle. What she did was rude. Honestly, if Karen and your ex aren't close, you need to not be so concerned about your ex's feelings. She sure wasn't concerned about your feelings when she dumped you for her jerk ex!! Karen seems like a real girl, not one of these fairweather ones.
Good luck!
2007-11-26 13:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget about your ex, ask karen what she thinks of you, and ask her if she maybe wants to hang out sometime as more then friends
2007-11-26 13:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..this is hard.
first i would like to say..i'm sorry.
but! i think you should go for Karen. she is the one you like..don't waste your time on the EX. No. there is a reason it didn't work the first time.
2007-11-26 13:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly confer with ur ex or something approximately it yet whilst she doesnt understand properly i think of which you ought to nonetheless provide it of venture.. something like that befell to me: i became into conversing as friends to my pal's ex and that i fell inlove with him i informed her and that i went out with him, she have been given somewhat mad at me and our friendship became into over in spite of the incontrovertible fact that it worked out perfeclty because of the fact the guy gave me each little thing or perhaps nonetheless we broke up now we have been going out for a three hundred and sixty 5 days and 6 months and it became into the superb element that befell to me...hopes this helps :)
2016-09-30 05:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut (Karen). If they are not really friends, then they will stop talking and/or get over it.
2007-11-26 13:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong. You can go with the girl you love. Do not bother what your ex will think.
2007-11-26 13:09:38 · answer #11 · answered by Ratnakar P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋