Ok, so I don't know if I like this guy!
Any time I've ever liked someone, I've felt different than this. I get butterflies, I think about them non-stop.. I talk about them non-stop... I get so shy I can barely talk to them... It feels intense.
But with him, it's different. I don't have that intense feeling inside of me. I know I like him, but I just don't know if I really want to be in a relationship with him. I can go awhile without thinking or talking about him. I can actually live my life.
He's the nicest, most amazing guy. He makes me happy, but he doesn't make me crazy...
Physically, he's different than what I'm usually attracted to, but I do feel something for him.
Would it be wrong of me to give it a shot and see what happens?
Can you be in a relationship, and truly love someone, without that crazy, intense feeling? Without butterflies?
2007-11-26 12:57:29 · 4 answers · asked by Just a Girl ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I married the MOST wonderful man on earth and I did not feel butterflies all throug the courtship. One thing is to fall in love and another to love. Greeks have three words to define diferent types of love, we only have one and so, is too generic, but I learned through this relationship that true love is about wanting the other person to be happy, to never hurt him.... well let me paste you a definition I found most precious and see if you and him can make it true. If yes, go for it and take profit of not feeling overly crazy about him; take things as slow as possible, get to know him well,(talk, talk, talk) and be honest to him always. If you get to marry him, your marriage will be somewhere on earth but mostly in heaven just like mine!
Ok here is the definition of true love:
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Hope everything works out!
2007-11-26 13:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tincan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not always there, but if it was never there... i dont know. It always fades.
People get butterflies when they get a new car haha its not the same but the excitement. That butterfly feeling is the excitement of something new. I think its when we objectify people or love ya know.
I think u should give it a try, bc maybe that comfort and familiar feeling... maybe u found ur self something true.
2007-11-26 21:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Justin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That intense crazy butterfly feeling fades in all relationships. What you have is real.
2007-11-26 21:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can love poeple without feeling the flutters, but if you dont have those feelings now, it might fizzle fast.
2007-11-26 21:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jonesy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋