only parents please?

Question

who would come first? Your offspring or 2nd wife/husband?

Answer 1

Offspring

Answer 2

The WELFARE of the offspring always comes first,
but do remember that a step-parent is going to be
resented and needs his/her spouse to present a
united front in disciplinary battles, otherwise there's
going to be a serious problem controlling the child.
That kid needs to respect and obey both parents
for his own good.

Answer 3

Not a parent, but will be one of these days and I say that your children should always come first if they are really young or teenagers. Adult children, anyone can make time for and its good to hear them out, but they can no doubt handle their own problems. But really though if you still have very young children, their emotional and physical well being comes first over any love interest or spouse. Especially if you aren't seeing that child all that often.

P.S. Adults that you are married to or just dating can handle themselves and figure out their own problems, hence you should never put them over a small child or a teenager that is already feeling emotionally imbalanced. Its better to stand by your partner when they are handling their children and vice versa.

Answer 4

when we are married, our spouse needs to come first -- and that includes decision making and mattters with children.... however, sometimes we do need to put the kids first.... and in situations where a child only visits the parents every weekend or so, the child does need to come first while visiting.

life is so complicated today, and this is a difficult question to answer.... i think that it depends upon the situation.

our children ALWAYS need reassurance, encouragement, emotional support and our care, love and TIME! hopefully, the adults out there realize this and can balance their lives.

Answer 5

Your offspring always comes first.

Answer 6

Your child always comes first. If you neglect your child for a relationship then you should not be in a relationship period. It's hard to balance a love life and your children. If you have a jealous significant other because of your children then you need to tell them that your child will always be first in your life and if they cannot respect that then they need to find someone else who does not have children. You do not want a child growing up feeling neglected.

Answer 7

My uncle always told me, that my aunt was there first, there relationship is what keeps the house stable, they had the kids, raised the kids, and then when they were gone all they had again were each other. So, what does a new mother do, take care of her baby, to the exclusion of all others unless she has time to, and the baby is asleep, what does a new father do, take care of mother, so she can take care of baby, that has been the pattern of our family. So you might say, that the first thing is the children for mom, dad for mom, mom for dad. its a circle of love.

Answer 8

offspring of course

but that is only for you to decide

Answer 9

i'm not a parent but when i saw what you wrote about your dad it kinda make me tear because it reminds me of my mom and what she's doing to me now.

Answer 10

children