I'm a 24 y/o female.. and I hate my grandmother... well she's not really my "grandmother", she's my Aunt (she took it upon herself to be called that). I hate her, she's mean, rude, inconsideraite, a lier, she thinks the world revolves around her 24-7, she always thinks that her life has been so much worse then everyone elses, honestly she's a &itch with a capital "B". When I was younger 6-11 y/o she lives F-ing 7 miles from me, I lived in a heck-hole, I had to go to school with popuri in my pockets because all my clothes smelled like dog peepee, the people I was living w/ couldn't always pay the bills on time. I hardly had any food, was never told to go to school, heck I didn't learn how to multiply till I was 15y/o. When I was 8y/o I started my period, and I called her asking for help, and she called me a lier, and hug up on me... I have all kinds of anger aginst her, and I want to express myself, and why I don't like her at all... should I write her a letter and tell her, or no???
2007-11-26 12:31:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
kill her and make it look like an accident...
P.S. wtf did the 2nd half of your story have to do with your grandmother?
2007-11-26 12:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Self-Proclaimed Expert 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dog stereotyping, simple as that. They see the dogs portrayed negatively, and assume the whole breed is that way (like pitbulls with fighting, which IS what they were bred for, but they're some of the sweetest family dogs out there) The only thing you can do is train your dog well, and show how obedient and well behaved and nice he is. I have a rott/lab mix, whose a big 140 lb. black dog. When people see him, some get scared or worried. But he's extremely well trained, so once they see how easily I can control him, and how he wants nothing more than to be pet, they relax. It sucks that people have these negative assumptions about certain breeds, but that means that, as an owner, you've got to try all the harder to disprove them. The best way to do this is to have a very well trained and well behaved dog. Tell your grandmother that smaller dogs have more tendency to be aggressive (this is due to prejudice training. After all, what's going to scare more people, a big dog biting them, or a small one? Now guess which one doesn't get trained to bite as much, and gets away with a lot more.). But who knows, she also may have had a traumatic experience with a rottweiler. I've been bitten on the face and wrist by a white German shepherd, and I know how scary that can be (though my love of dogs made me get over it quickly). Try to talk to her more sensibly, and maybe even find statistics on reported animal/dog bites. But in the mean time, I'd guess it'd be a good thing to keep the dog in as little contact with her as possible. No sense of pushing it.
2016-05-26 01:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by dorothy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 24 years old so get on with your life. Don't call or write or visit. I feel for you growing up like that, but holding that hate inside will only hurt YOU, not her as she seems really self involved. So just forget the past and try and make the rest of your life what you want it to be. It is up to you now. You can only use the excuse of your past life for so long and then it becomes just that - an excuse. You have the power to be what you want to be and to try and make the life that you want. If you really really need to express your anger, then write it all down in a journal and get it out of you and into the pages of that journal. Then throw it away. If you feel you need to write a letter, then do so, but DON'T mail it. Throw it away. Get it all out and then get on with your life.
good luck
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2007-11-26 12:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by oldbeatlefan53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are probably justifiably bitter.
None of the things that you are considering will give you satisfaction and she won't even care. She will ignore you like a dirty shirt. It is at least a waste of your time.
Here is the best revenge...achieve all the success that you can. Drive a nice car, live in a nice house, have a good job that pays well. Become educated and well-informed. Finish your education.
And when you get there don't even think about how pitiful she is. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to forgive her. Her bad behavior is the best that she will ever do.
2007-11-26 12:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are 24. You survived. Now you can let it go. You don't need her anymore to survive. Anger really doesn't hurt her, only yourself.
Anything you could say on a letter won't change the past, and won't change her.
You really can eliminate her from your life. Let go of the past, it can't hurt you anymore.
The worst thing you can do to her is not to show you hate her or love her, but that she doesn't exist in your world.
I really feel for you since I had a similar childhood.
You can't change the past, nor predict the future. Live in the now.
2007-11-26 12:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by Larry W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, write her a letter so you can move on. I'd offer to talk with her and maybe you can salvage something for the future - if not, let it be and live your life. Hate is not a good thing to carry around it will just drag you down.
2007-11-26 12:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by kiddkosmic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are really angry at someone else. I can understand that you had a really hard time growing up in those conditions, but was that really her fault or responsibility? No doubt, it would have been good of her to help you out and support you, but there is no law saying that was her job. You are right to be disappointed in her. However, it sounds to me like you really feel abandoned by your immediate family. Why are you only angry at her for ignoring your needs.....what about your mom and dad? What about the people who raised you?
Yeah, it sucks that she wasn't there for you, but why do you hold her to a higher standard than your parents?
2007-11-26 12:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by EA A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 24 years old now.
Write a letter, holler a little, whatever it takes
but it's time you got over the past.
It's over, put it away and move on.
2007-11-26 13:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel is right, whatever that is, if you want shout at her saying you hate her guts and wish she'd die, fine do that, but you'll only sink to her level. write a letter expressing how you felt all this time and how it disrupt your life, maybe she'll start paying attention to how she treats people, if you just say negative things it will only excite her and things will get even more messier
2007-11-26 12:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a letter could be too childlish and if you want to express your feelings more maturely i think that you should go visit her and tell her everything that bothers you about her and tell her to not talk to you unless shes ready to stop acting like a bi*ch, i would deffintley mention your life problems as well because i know what its lke for people to not consider your life as hard as theres when in reality its 23587x harder!
2007-11-26 12:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by yellaaa :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to write all ur feelings down on to a paper and send it to her- go ahead
but if u don't want to- don't then
don't worry about her gettin pissed or somethin- she didn't care bout u before so y should u
2007-11-26 12:36:56 · answer #11 · answered by Jared 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋