8 year old mouth...?

Question

My eight year old has developed quite a wonderful way of talking back. I am very patient with him most of the time...but, sometimes it is extremely difficult to deal with. He interupts every time you tell him something. He won't stop and listen. He decides to open his mouth and argue each time he is told something. What should my husband and I do? We are trying so hard to help....

Answer 1

punish him until he learns control

Answer 2

Lay down the law. By that I mean let him know that sassing, arguing, talking back , rudeness is not tolerated in your house.

Then set up a pink slip system. It can be any color but some strips of colored paper - about 6 should do. or maybe two for each catagory of bad talk. stick them on the fridge or bulletin board and explain that these are his tickets to happiness. Tell him that every time he does one of the bad talks he loses a ticket. If he loses all his tickets in a day he goes to bed one hour early that night and has a priviledge taken away. Be sure it is one that he really likes. Next day he gets to start over. The idea is to not make it too hard to be good but to make it hurt just a bit if he isn't, Then just do it. At first he will fail a lot and then he will get the idea and will do better and better. In a couple months he will be using self control and you will all be happier. It stops you having to get hooked every time he hollars. You explain it once or maybe twice at the beginning and then work the program. I stole this from Child Psychologist John Rosamond, Get one of his books for your self. He has good ideas that are simple and work.

Answer 3

I wish I knew. My 9 year old son is not far from that. Mostly when it comes to arguing. Recently I started telling him to not argue, but that's already sort of turned into a joke, because he'll say "I'm not arguing" and I'll say "See, you're doing it now too." And he'll say "No, I'm not."
My local university offers a class for parents and kids with emotional or social problems, which I just started and I'm hoping it will help. You could look into something like that.
If not, I did once read that it's not totally abnormal for 8-9 year olds to argue. I think they might be trying to work out there own mental and verbal skills. Something to look up at the library.

Answer 4

Explain to him that you will no longer tolerate his talking back and/or arguing when he is told to do something. Tell him that you expect him to listen to you carefully when you are speaking. Tell him that every time he interrupts you inappropriately, he's going to get an extra work chore.

Then each time he does it, calmly tell him that he now has an extra work chore he must do (e.g. watering the plants, making the beds in the house, feeding the pets, straightening the bathroom, whatever). He should get the picture soon.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Find out who he is getting this type of attitude from. Does he have any older siblings? A lot of times the younger ones do as the older one, not understanding what they're doing. If there are no siblings, listen to how his friends are talking. Whatever the source, you need to get a hold of it now before it turns into something worse. Time out doesn't work!

Answer 6

Some of this sounds typical for that age. But typical and respect need to go hand in hand. If you feels it's disrespectufl and out of hand, then you lay down the law, and most importantly stick to it. Let the child know who's boss! If after sincere effort, you still have a problem, you may seek medical or phsychological help.

Answer 7

I'd watch the super nanny on TV, make up games for every time he stops to think he gets a star or puts something in a jar, and when its filled he gets a day out with mommy or daddy and his choice of what to do. or they say u have then sit in a chair for the amount of min. they are old, so he'd sit for 8 min.

Answer 8

I wouldn't be patient with him. I would intrupt him and tell him what he's doing wrong. I'm not a parent so I can't say from a mothers side but I have a 9 yr old nephew that does that and we correct him. Doesn't always work tho. Some kids are just stubborn I think.

Answer 9

Whenever my son would act up, he got absolutely NO attention from either me or his father until he straightened up. Firmly insist that he maintain eye contact with you while you are speaking to him, maybe that will help him focus on what you are saying. Perhaps you could have him repeat to you what you've just said, maybe make a game of it. You will need to enlist the help of other family members, ie: grandparents, aunts and uncles, etc. Continuity is absolutely necessary.

Answer 10

Here's the problem with your question. If you were willing to take the proper stance with your child, you wouldn't have to ask others for help.

In other words, do you want a son or a friend? Sons need occasional spankings and other forms of discipline. Friends do not [at least not from you]

Spare the rod...

Answer 11

You must find a way to be firm and make it stick.
If you don't, his 'teenage rebellious` phase will
be a nightmare.
Arguing is acceptible - up to a point.
interrupting is not.

Kids; You spend the first two years watching for them
to speak and stand up,
And the next 20 trying to get them to sit down and shut up.