i really liked this girl, but didnt work out. i really tried my best, i was weak for weeks, i was emotional, she always spoke to me as a friend, but now i just cant take it anymore. i have to finish it. i already deleted her off my msn, facebook and what have you...i dont want to be reminded of her ever again, it is too painful. i see her from time to time, and during those times, i will completely avoid her, make sure i sit smwhere where i cant see her...any other advice? i will try to meet other girls of course...
2007-11-26 11:51:53 · 18 answers · asked by concerneddd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thx to everyone for such great comments
2007-11-27 03:29:00 · update #1
My Friend i know excactly what you are going thru.
I was married to a lady for 28 years and believe me when the divorce came [yep m fault stupid me] i too fell apart. She has
never contacted me but to be safe I moved away from her area and completly out of state from her.
Turn it over to God he will see ou thru as he did me.
I will be praying for you.
2007-11-26 12:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the other side of the boat,I want to forget a guy.A low class LOSER that I wasted 20 yrs. on.Good luck! Hope you got out in time not to have all the lingering memories that seem to keep causing pain.Meet someone new or be single & concentrate on yourself right now.If you work on yourself maybe you'll know more about what you truely want.NO, the best way to get over somebody is NOT to quickly get under some other girl.That is an old wive's tale that is complete B.S..It may cause you more trouble or pain.I want to forget my true love(I thought he was),BUT I'll be DAMNED if another man can take away all the pain & heartache.To have a one-night stand would only make me feel worse,because I have standards & principles.
2007-11-26 20:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sadie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story reminds me of the story of the sour grapes and the fox.However, your obvious pain is also very clear and my sympathy goes out to you. But your actions are petty, like those of a little kid denied a new toy or some candy. You liked this girl and she also liked you ( she talked to you as a friend) but not in the manner you liked or wanted. While your piece does not indicate if you made her aware of your feelings, it still would have made no difference. Because you like someone romantically doesn't mean that they have to return those feelings. As painful as it may be for you, you have to behave as a mature guy who can deal with adverse conditions or no one would want to deal with you fearing that you will not be able to handle bad outcomes. If you haven't told her of your feelings, do so ; and even if she says no, then get over her without throwing any more tantrums, and then look for another gal you can build a new relationship with. I wish you the best.
2007-11-26 20:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though this is your opinion and your life, taking extra care to never see this girl again is only making you think of her more. You need to stop stressing out. You will meet the one! Obviously, this girl wasn't the right one, but another girl out there is! I think that you should just let fate take its course. If you see her...don't think about. Hey, if you're feeling brave, smile and wave a little. Trust me. It brings closure. It'll make you feel much better if you know that you dealt with this in an appropriate way. (BTW, I'm sorry you got hurt. It'll get better! Promise!) :]
2007-11-26 19:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should totally forget her. I think you should go see a good movie or do something that takes energy - do you play music or sports? Something to get your mind off of her and stop sulking so much, it's bad for your mental health! (haha) So maybe you can start dating other girls and then finally be able to talk to her again :)
2007-11-26 19:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by GreenT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved with other activities and people --- even a girl 'friend" could help.....you know what I mean.
The only thing that works is TIME....usually helps faster if you don't see the person but time does heal regardless -- hang in there.
2007-11-26 19:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my sister just broke up with her boyfriend. he's like my brother and talks to me about it all the time. his problem is jsut like urs. my advice to you is just don't go out and party, or don't think about killing urself or anything like that. maybe you should stay away from her, try to found out where she'll be, and do not go there if u can help urself. ask other girls ot hang out once in a while...and deff delete her from everything and anything.
2007-11-26 20:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Amy S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well.. start talking to other people or go out with your guys friends and have fun. that will help you not think about her.
also you say that she talks to you still as a friend. i think you should go talk to her about it. tell her that you'd appreciate if you guys didnt talk for a while because of how you are feeling. im sure she'll understand. and tell her that you guys can start back talking as friends whenyou feel you are ready and you have forgotten abut the past.( well if tht is you want to tlk to her again as friends)
2007-11-26 19:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah truthfully don't let it get you down just go out with friends have a good time......if your having a good time you won't think of her and you'll enjoy yourself. It will help you relive stress and some of those sad emotions.
2007-11-26 19:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww :(.. my best advise is to keep doing what your doing.. avoiding her is great.. throwing away anything that reminds u of her is also great... deleting her of f ur msn and facebook is also great.. ur off to a great start... thats all i would suggest for u too do..
with time you will get over it for now maybe try and find other activities to occupy your time :)
good luck!
2007-11-26 19:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋