My dad never cried before, and he started crying,Should i try to make him happy,or let him be sad?What should I do?
2007-11-26 11:37:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't try to make him stop, it's better in the long run if he can let the sadness out. Put your arms around him, tell him you love him, tell him you're sorry his dad is leaving. Cry with him, hang with him if he'll let you.
So sorry for your pending loss.
2007-11-26 11:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do.Just spend some time sitting with your dad,and maybe giving him a hug for no reason.Losing a parent is only superceeded in pain by one thing.Losing a child.Just let your dad work through his agony at his own pace,and be there for him.Don't try to make him happy,it won't work.Instead,ask him some of his favorite times with your grandpa as he was growing up.Remembering the past sometimes helps people get through their grief so much easier.It's those tiny moments in life that make death worthwhile.I would guess that you are fairly young,even though you did not list how old you were.That being said,just remember there are stages that your family will go through with this.There is the inevitable sadness and grief.There will also be a period where different family members will be angry.And eventually,there will be periods of relief.Waiting for a loved one to pass is the hardest,and everyone handles their feelings at a different pace.Just know that no matter what harsh words your dad may say to you during this period,they are not meant as personal attacks.It is just his stress seeping out.Another thing to remember,and you can always say this to your dad when he is weak,is that God will not give you more than you can handle,and it will make you stronger in the long run.
2007-11-26 11:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by sacred_hart_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him be sad for a while. Sometimes you need a good cry to feel better. After he is done, then make him feel better with a hug or an ice cream or something. Just love him and he will be happy. Be nice to him and don't make problems with your siblings and go out of your way to be perfect. My dad never cried too and the day I saw him cry it was hard for me too. I've been there. You think he is big and strong then he is crying. I know how you feel.
2007-11-26 11:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by I♥Reba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear your predicament....
Your Dad is a Super Dad because he is human, and has a Super Dad too - who is dying.
Love him, support him, cuddle him and cry with him would be my advice.
Be strong, and imagine how you will feel in so many years when he is dying, and your child will be worrying about all the grandparents - Your Mum or Dad,Your Partners Mum and Dad, and You especially.
Your Dad may not open up - indeed it is not grief we need to concentrate on, but the realisation that every day is precious to us all.
We all need to cry sometimes, but it is not a sign of weakness and your Dad needs to cry at the moment.
Your Grandfather may well pass away, but he will never go.
He will merely be in the next room.
2007-11-26 11:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by MikeD2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be sad right now. He is seeing an end to a loving relationship and doesn't know how to cope. Be there with him, go with him to see grandpa (once in awhile, not every time), and just try not to do things to get him angry right now. He will love and appreciate your being so kind and considerate.
2007-11-26 11:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him you know grandpa won't be hear much longer,and you know that makes him sad.But grandpa has a happy and healthy life,and that GOD needs a good angel to help out on earth.Don't be sad for grandpa ,be happy for him.
2007-11-26 11:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandpa was very sick for about 5 years. It's hard on everyone. Support your father. He may not be home at all for days in a row. Be patient. Love him. Maybe write your father a letter telling him how much you love him and how much he means to you. Put it on his pillow. This will cheer him up... But expect tears and LOTS of hugs.
2007-11-26 11:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Don't Sweat the Small Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him. Make things he has to do everyday more simple for him by helping out. Let him know once that if he wants to talk you are there and then drop it otherwise he was become embarrassed or upset. Also, do the simple things like hugs, and saything thank you.
2007-11-26 11:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by sam h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always difficult to lose a parent (both of my parents are deceased) but having support from the people you love is key. There will be times that he will be sad and mad all of his emotions will show just let him know that you are there for him.
My prayers are with you
2007-11-26 11:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by kjw101999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is ALWAYS stay positive. Cheer him up by telling him not to worry and tell him that Ur grandmother will be fine. also pretend and show that Ur not worried and that will make him think that Ur grand-mother will be fine! Even if she does end up dying (Knock on wood) AND I HOPE SHE DOESNT!! he will still be happy because u made him feel really good
Good luck!
2007-11-26 11:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by masterofgames_11 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋