How do i tell my parents i want to move?

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How do i tell my parents i want to move?

I used to live in a small town with all of my friends but when my sister needed a new place to train gymnastics my whole family moved about 2 hours away. I know that doesn't seem far but I hate my new school. I don't get along with my parents well and I'm very shy. I'm only 14 and my parents have given me the option to move back, but they get offended very easily and I don't want to hurt there feelings. I don't like my new school and I don't have many friends here. I also don't want to have to make my sister give up her favorite sport since she is training 7 hours a day for a scholership.

I visit where I used to live every weekend and i love it there.

How do I tell my parents with out hurting their feelings?

2007-11-26 11:37:13 · 34 answers · asked by smallishchicken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family

2007-11-26 14:43:11 · update #1

34 answers

Tell them you admire them for giving up a lot for your sisters future but that your future is important also and then tell them what you want. If their feelings get hurt ask them why what your sister wants matters but what you want doesnt. Tell them your very unhappy living there.

2007-11-26 11:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋

I'm confused...I thought you said your parents have already offered to let you move back. Personally, I think you need to buck up and quit being so selfish. Life is sometimes about making sacrifices for those we love. I suggest you work on yourself first, or you're likely to not be happy anywhere. You need your family right now and you already get to go back to where you used to live every weekend. Give yourself some time to make new friends. Put forth some effort to get to like your school and fit in. If you're shy, that won't be any different no matter where you are. This could be a real turning point in your life. You know what's wrong, take the initiative to fix it. I know moving it tough at your age, but honestly it's not the end of the world. Everything happends for a reason. Start looking for the good in where you are instead of focusing on all the negative - that's not healthy and will get you no where! Good luck!

2007-11-26 11:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Island Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋

talk to them as an adult. they're going to judge and scrutinize and may not listen. the best you can do is intelligently inform them that you've pondered the decision for a few months, and would like to explore what life is like away from home (for a bit) and see what a little independence is like. Assure them that you've looked into every possible situation and the positives are better than the negatives. You feel at this time of your life, [boyfriend] is a good chance for you to experiment with independence without going fully on your own so you'll have help and someone close to rely on.

2016-05-26 01:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋

You said, "my parents have given me the option to move back." Talk to them and ask them how it would work out. Don't commit to anything, but let them know that you are thinking about it. Who would you stay with? How often would you see your family? Would they come to see you or would you travel (by bus or train maybe?) to see them? If it doesn't work out (you get homesick or miss your family) how would you transition back to them? If they already gave you the option, then they've already thought about it. Ask your parents about the pros and cons. Maybe you just need a phone for text messaging your friends you miss.

Maybe you can find your own group to hang with at the new school like the band, chess club, drama group, or the journalism club who produce the school's annual. There are lots of clubs. Try one and then another. There will be one group that will welcome you without reservations. That's the one you want. Good luck.

2007-11-26 11:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by driver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋

well how old is your sister? if shes going into college next year... maybe you could stay 1 last year until she leaves for college.
if not then you just need to sit your parents down )or parent) and say," I am really sorry if this makes you sad, but i dont like it here. I have no friends and i love where we used to live better. I know _______( sisters name) is training, but i just wanted to let you know that i am not happy right now."
Your parents are your parents. and its not fair to you to give your sis more attention and care than you. But they cant notice a problem unless you tell them! So you just have to really be nice about it and dont yell at them. They will understand! If they dont, talk to your sister and tell her how you feel! She should know too.
You could also try harder to make new friends. go to sport clubs or the friends that you do have, go to parties and stuff like that to meet their friends.
I hope I helped and good luck!
Remeber, when meeting new people, just be yourself and dont try to be anyone else. they should accept you for who YOU are!

2007-11-26 11:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by HunterJumper♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋

When you are paying for the house you get to live wherever you want. Right now you are a kid, so it's not your call.

I get it, it's hard to make new friends, but you are quite fortunate to have parents who care enough to support their daughter's (your sisters) dream.

This is bone simple kid.

You can find a dream, and take advantage of supportive parents and the greater opportunities in the city,

OR

You can relentlessly whine, moan and complain and make everyone around you miserable.

Good luck.

2007-11-26 12:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋

If your parents have given you the option to move back I don't think their feelings will be hurt if you move back. Although I'm sure they will miss you a lot. If you can move back and be well taken care of why not go back for the school year and spend the summers with your parents.

2007-11-26 11:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by papricka w 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋

Your parents have expressed their emotional support to you by permitting you to go back. It takes little more time for you
adjust in a new place since you are a shy person. At 14 years
of age you are too young to take decisions on your own.In stead of moving back,try to adjust in the new area and look for new friends this will help you to get adjusted at new places in your future life

2007-11-26 11:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by nave235jock086 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋

i think that the smart thing for you to do would to talk to your parents about how you feel but dont be rude or have an attitude about it. im also 14 years old so i know how you feel. i want to move back to my small town too, but i feel i cant just pick up and leave. I definatly think you should talk more about it to them so that you dont have so many feelings "bottled up" inside of you. because if you do, you will start to be upset around them and you will act like it is their fault. so just talk to them (:

2007-11-26 11:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋

I stands to reason that if your parents gave you the option to move that they will be ok with it. If they moved to help your sister they seen like parents that would give the option to move they would be ok. Just make sure that you come to them like you are grown up state your case this should help.

2007-11-26 11:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by kjw101999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋