Well today I was talking to a kid in my class, he knows my girlfriend. He talked about last year, and how she told him straight up she wanted to do him. He also said she hooked up with like 5 guys last year.. She didn't have sex.. but it bothers me. How to bring it up and talk about it?
2007-11-26 11:31:19 · 5 answers · asked by cosnipa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We weren't going out back then.
2007-11-26 11:31:32 · update #1
Yes I trust her, but her past bothers me a bit. It's not that I don't trust her, but I can't leave it unheard.
2007-11-26 11:38:36 · update #2
dating for around 3 months
2007-11-26 12:03:27 · update #3
Well
really your issue is - Can you trust the girl now?
Of course a pretty and outgoing girl is going to want to explore relationship with boys. It's not like she is programmed to know that you are the guy for her and to avoid all other guys and come straight to you. The world would be a lot easier if that was the case.
You need to talk with your girlfriend. Tell her what the guy said. Ask her how she is feeling about things now. See what you think - do you trust her?
If you don't / can't trust her, you should break up with her (explain why) and have a bit of a sit and think about the nature of relationships and trust. Learn from the experience.
If you CAN / DO trust her, then you should go with it. Her past is in the past. Have you got a completely blameless past? Surely there is SOMETHING dodgy you've done in the past that you might wish you hadn't done.
2007-11-26 11:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you have been with your girlfriend. If it's a new relationship, I would avoid bringing up sex until she does.
If you don't want to wait that long, try to initiate a game of 20 questions. You ask a question, she has to answer it truthfully, and same goes for you. You could easily slip that question in (though I wouldn't lead with it).
If it really bothers you that much, you really should talk about it sooner rather than later. If you lead in with the questions, that's probably as inconspicuous you can be.
2007-11-26 19:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by head in the clouds... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its the past. you are going to have to get over it to be in a relationship with her. you cant get mad at her for anything because you werent dating. if it bothers you so much maybe you should break it off with her
2007-11-26 19:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by surfcarolinagurl26 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the past is the past leave it alone what matters now is tht your going out with her dont read into it
2007-11-26 19:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Michael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her how many guys has she hooked up with
2007-11-26 19:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by goodies make the boys jump on it 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋