Should I tell my fiance where we're going for our honeymoon?

Question

What should I do?

We're getting married in 76 days, and she's asked me where we're going for our honeymoon. I havn't told her, and although she has some ideas, she hasn't pushed wanting to know. (I'm not too sure if she's even heard of the resort we're going to... I didn't till I drove past it one day).

So I'm wondering, what is the tradition or convention when it comes to honeymooning? Who knows, or how importent is it for everyone involved to know well in advance?

Also, I have no reason to keep this from her, other than for the surprise factor.

Thanks.

Answer 1

Wow, congratulations...76 days...not that your counting or anything.....

If she is the type of lady who likes surprises, keep it a secret. You may have to take someone else in her family into your confidence in order for them to make sure she has clothing packed for where you are going. She wouldn't want to show up at a ski resort, with only bathing suits and shorts....

You sound like a great person, I wish you and your fiance many happy married years....and a wonderful honeymoon...no matter where you will be.

God bless you both.

Answer 2

Well I knew where we were going but that is because my husband is not good with the romantic side or anything! But, I would have loved being surprised. I wished I was. The only thing is if you decide not to tell her than you probably should hint about clothing I mean if you are going to a ski resort for example you want to make sure she has sweaters and things if you are going someplace warm then she might want her bathing suit. I would just ask her. She will be honset with you. Just let her know you were going to surprise her but if she wants to know you will tell her.

Answer 3

We're planning ours together and I like knowing what's going on but it wasn't going to be a surprise anyway. Usually couples plan what they want together. If she isn't stressed about it then you can still keep it a secret. I'm surprised that she actually didn't plan the honeymoon. I know a lot of women who have dreamed of planning their wedding and honeymoon.

Answer 4

I was always under the impression the honeymoon was a mutual decision. Than again, i was also under the impression that both bride and groom paid for said honeymoon, or it was gifted. In which case, if it's gifted, it was gifted to both of you.

i say tell her, just to make sure you're both on the same page. If you already know she has the same taste as you, and would LOVE what you've picked (and you're 100% sure)... i say leave it as a surprise.

Answer 5

Women love quality surprises but you may want to tell her what kind of clothes to pack and how to prepare in a practical way.

You could even have it both ways by promising to tell her three days before the big event and then she would be surprised and also know how to pack.

Answer 6

Interesting, I've never heard of the groom planning the wedding and not telling the bride where they're going. Personally, I would hate that! I really want to plan my own honeymoon and wouldn't want my fiance to plan the whole thing himself without telling me where we're going.

So I guess it's really up to you. If she wants to know, tell her. Otherwise, keep it a secret and surprise her.

Answer 7

My fiance and I were given a cruise by his mother and grandmother for our upcoming honeymoon in February. I think it's important for her to know where she is going, so she can plan out a wardrobe. It would be silly to bring flipflops to a ski lodge or a sweater to a beach... but how will she know unless you give her some information? If you're insistant on keeping the location under wraps, at least tell her what to prepare for, even if you're vauge about the exact destination. Congrats on your impending nuptuals!

Answer 8

Well we definitely planned ours together, but I can understand wanting to surprise her (I enjoy surprises too!). For that though, I'm glad I knew ahead of time. If she really wanted you to tell her, she would have bugged the s@#% out of you by now! Are you having trouble keeping the secret?! Well, good luck!

Answer 9

Does she like surprises?

If so, keep it a surprise.

If not, give her clues.

My fiance and I chose our honeymoon location together.

Answer 10

She obviously wants to know..all women cannot stand not knowing the secret. Dont tell her. My brother-in-law did not tell my sister but of course she went around saying she was going to hawaii and ruined his surprise for her...(shes sneaky). Its always fun to surpris someone. Just tell her to pack for everything so she doesnt just figure it out for herself. Congrats and be strong with the secret. it makes everthing more exciting especially her.